We are pregnant with our first baby, due in October. My husband is a wonderful man, but has grueling insecurity issues. For example: Whenever I want to go out with friends alone (female or male), he always wants to be there & vice versa when we go out with his friends. He even went as far to say that if I want to go out with a male friend to a movie, "it is called a date." I give him plenty of attention & affection, but I feel as if it's never good enough for him. He tends to overstep my boundaries a lot & he knows it. If we do marriage counseling & he gives his all to try to defeat his demons, can our marriage be saved? The stress is KILLING us! Please help! Thank you. :)
Edit: I love my husband & am willing to do whatever it takes to make this a healthier, & happier relationship. I am wearing thin, however, because he is so invasive. Before we were a couple, I told him that I have many friends of both genders & races. He knew I wasn't going to lose friendships because of my relationship, unless they hurt us as a couple. He just can't deal because of his past!
Gwen: yes, he was & is always comparing me to his ex. I am sensitive to that, as much as I can be. I was cheated on too in the past (my ex beau & my BEST FRIEND) & have let it go for many reasons, especially because I want this beautiful relationship! Thanks for your answer.
Anayasmommy: He is a part of everything in my life & vice versa. It doesn't mean he needs to come out with me EVERY single time I go out, male friends or not! There are "rights" in marriage, but that does not stipulate that he has the "right" to be with me all of the time. What about keeping SOME individuality? Occasional space is healthy! Thanks for your answer.
Pinkdragon: Totally agreed! Thank you.
Wendy: I don't "do whatever I want." I am always honest about what I want to do & tell him everything. Counseling could be the only tool to where I can still KEEP my friends! I understand I am not perfect, hence why I suggested marriage counseling which = 2 people. Thank you for your answer.
Mom: I do agree the thought can cause insecurity, but I haven't given him any reason to be insecure. I would NEVER cheat on my husband!! I have a lot of male friends, hung out with them alone/with other friends in past relationships... never had a problem because I am commited. Would you feel the need to cheat with a friend? Male friends is not an invitation to cheat. It is not healthy if hubby is with me 24/7; he is not a child. Occasional space is healthy! Thank you for the wishes, & thanks for your answer.
Zakys: YAY! Someone like me. Marriage is 2 people celebrating their sacred relationship & that each is an indivual. Each person must be happy to have a healthy relationship! Thank you.Answer Question
Answer by Hatsumomo at 3:03 AM on Mar. 22, 2011
Answer by stitchintime at 3:10 AM on Mar. 22, 2011
was he cheated on in the past ? if you give a little more info i might be able to expound on an answer. not trying to be nosey here...
Answer by gwen20 at 5:09 AM on Mar. 22, 2011
Answer by anayasmommy21 at 5:14 AM on Mar. 22, 2011
Answer by pinkdragon36 at 5:31 AM on Mar. 22, 2011
Answer by wendythewriter at 7:06 AM on Mar. 22, 2011
Answer by momofone221 at 8:01 AM on Mar. 22, 2011
Answer by Zakysmommy at 9:39 AM on Mar. 22, 2011
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