I was reading some comments on another posters question, and one mom described breastfeeding mothers as "self righteous". I have breastfed my son, and will breastfeed my new baby when he/she arrives, and do not consider myself "self righteous" in any way. I am the first person in my family since my grandmother to breastfeed, and have had to endure some pretty ignorant comments from all the bottle feeders among my family and friends. Some of them include "It doesn't make any difference" "Its the same stuff" "It takes forever" "It hurts too much" " It takes over your life" "The Dad can't bond with the baby". I'm sorry, bottle feeders, but most of these statements are completely wrong. It makes a difference in many ways, including giving your child 6 mos. of great immune boosters. It is NOT the same stuff, not even close. Even the new formula by Gerber with all the probiotics in it is totally different than breastmilk. Breastmilk is different not only every day, but with each feeding. And with each feeding, the baby recieves different milk at the beginning than at the end. At the start of the feeding, the foremilk ( a thin, watery looking milk) comes and satisfies the baby's thirst, then as the baby nurses longer the milk gets richer and satisfies his hunger. It is easily digested, keeps the baby from having diaper rash, and almost never causes "spitup". As for the "It takes up your whole life " people, it is so much quicker and easier than bottle feeding. You simply pick the baby up and they latch on. No getting out of bed, turning on the lights, measuring and mixing the formula, warming bottles, and so on. Most of the night feedings I never even had to get out of bed. Simply stayed under my covers and laid baby next to me and we both dozed while he fed. Whenever we went places we didn't have to lug a bunch of stuff, just diapers :)
The people who say that it hurts are correct. It was INCREDIBLY painful for me to breastfeed the first two months. It took a lot of support from my husband and a lot of ignoring other people to get through it. I am proud of my descision to breastfeed and give my baby the best start he could have. If that makes me "self righteous" I don't care, but I dont' think I am. My sister, who bottle fed her three kids, is still mad at me for "showing her up " by breastfeeding when she didn't. It was MY descision, and I made the one that I felt was best for my baby, and I can and will do it again.
My husband has a perfect bond with our son, in spite of only having fed him two bottles (both of breastmilk btw). There is no truth to the saying that the Dad can't bond with the baby if they don't bottle feed. There are so many other things Daddy can do, rock him, cuddle him, put him to bed, get him out of bed and bring him to Mommy, then bring him back to bed after the feeding.
So all of you bottle feeding moms who answer this post just so you can bash breastfeeding moms, read all of the above before you answer, educate yourselves about breastfeeding and breastmilk and all the studies that show its benefits, then decide if you are answering with a negative comment because you feel guilty about not breastfeeding. You made your descision, let other moms make theirs. I have NEVER said anything bad about bottle feeding moms, or bottle fed kids. The simple truth is that breast is best, and all the doctors, scientists, and animals of nature know it. And you know it too, thats why you are all pissed off at us breastfeeding moms.
I started this out with one thought in my head, then ended a little angry, remembering all the bashing and negativity I have gotten for being a breastfeeding mother. Why can't bottle feeding moms just leave us alone?
P.S. Going anon, though I am proud of my choices, because I don't want to have to dump a second cafe mom account due to the rude private messages I know I would get, becasue I've gotten them before.
Asked by Anonymous at 12:04 PM on Mar. 22, 2011 in Parenting Debate
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Answer by Anonymous at 12:05 PM on Mar. 22, 2011
I breastfed. I did what I felt like was best for MY OWN children. If that makes me self righteous then so be it.
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