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I need some help. My boyfriends of 4 years bday is coming up and im planing on making a letter saying i will never deny him of sex ever agian and framing it or somethinkg of that matter. so far i have this i prommise to never deny him of sex nor use any excusses. i want to put more into it im just lost of words. some help would be nice Thanks. the reason for this is are sex life isnt like it used to be and ive been telling him no a lot and he keep saying if i dont start putting out he will find it somewhere els.

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:55 PM on Mar. 22, 2011 in Relationships

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  • Are you a 14 y.o girl? this sounds really immature to do.

    Answer by vbruno at 10:57 PM on Mar. 22, 2011

  • yea no pressure on yourself there...and while ur at it take all the romance and passion and throw itout as well..get some article put the passion back in your sex life..dont make a contract thats almost impossible to keep..and if u were married may be held legal in court

    Answer by bethany0199 at 10:58 PM on Mar. 22, 2011

  • This is opening a whole can of worms. If the sex life in the relationship is not everyday right now, and you make a promise like this you could being setting yourself up for a lot of anger, hurt and resentment. Putting words down on a piece of paper will give him something to point to and throw in your face each time you are not in the mood, ill or have some other reasonable excuse for not wanting to have sex. We all have times when we do not want to, which is perfectly acceptable in all relationships. I am not trying to make you mad or feel bad, but do not want you to get into a bad situation.

    Answer by catsmom1993 at 11:01 PM on Mar. 22, 2011

  • If he told you to put out or he'll go somewhere else, he just admitted to you that it's ALL about sex for him with you. And your STILL with this guy? Dump the Zero and find a Hero.


    Answer by vbruno at 11:05 PM on Mar. 22, 2011

  • You know you don't have to say anything ,,,,just do it make him happy in the bedroom and out because like he said if you don't he will go else where and then you might really loose him.
    Just maybe get a card that say's it alll...good luck

    Answer by dusty1962 at 11:38 PM on Mar. 22, 2011

  • how about just some sex coupons for different things like a chocolate syrup night or things like that.
    sorry but no never again is impractical... you cant predict the future. i remember a few times i turned down my ex for things like i just got the stomach bug.. if i gave in he would have been puked on.

    Answer by xxhazeldovexx at 12:36 AM on Mar. 23, 2011

  • Women who can't say no... are having sex with rapists.

    Answer by CPRsarah at 3:25 AM on Mar. 23, 2011

  • Go rent a motel room. Buy rose pedals and chill some wine and bring him there for his birthday night. Go easy on letters and promises. Live on day at a time.


    Answer by rosetoes at 4:50 AM on Mar. 23, 2011

  • sometimes we just cant have sex all the time. please make sure you are having healthy sex. meaning that your body is ready to have sex, that you can communicate opening your thoughts and feelings, that you are using protection. threatening to go somewhere else, really means that he already has an is giving you and ultimatum. i like the coupons, those are fun. my df right now is fixing our house, i gave him a two week deadline to get it down, and i will give him a day of BJ's. lol. a day of my choosing too. since i dont want to have sex at the moment, i chose something that he likes (i dont really care for it, but what ev) if your man cant compromise and make you feel like the goddess that you are, then he isnt even worth a card from hallmark. IMO

    Answer by Arretsmomma5 at 4:57 AM on Mar. 23, 2011

  • Women who can't say no... are having sex with rapists.

    No way. Sometimes women put out for a quiet life. But do you really want to sell yourself to this 'man'? Buck up your ideas! You're not just a vagina lady! If he's been saying he wants sex whenever it pleases him to have it and you comply, however twee you package that up for him (in a letter? Come on!), you are telling him how little you should be valued and dangerously puffing up his own mercenary ego. Have sex when it pleases you BOTH. If he walks away based on that he does not love you and does not deserve you!


    Answer by quietmo at 9:14 AM on Mar. 23, 2011

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