...and yelled at my dd. I can handle the fits and screaming and anything else she decides to throw my way (not literally) most days..but I hit my breaking point today. I could not get her to pick up her toys for anything..I threatened her with taking Dora away (she loves to watch Dora) and not getting my phone (she has some games on it that she can play), and followed through with it..so I get her toys picked up and put back in the closet and we go upstairs to start straightening up my bedroom..I took something to the baby's room (I'm pregnant with number two) and I sat down for a few minutes to look something up..dd then brings toys into that room and bc I told her she couldn't get in the crib she started throwing her toys..so I told her if she kept it up I would by them and give them to boys and girls who do what their mommy tells them to do..she throws toys again, and I bagged them up...fast forward to tonight, I'm in my room that never got straightened up, just the bed made, and here comes dd with her small plate of leftover spaghetti bc she got scared of a passing truck downstairs (our house isn't very sound efficient)..so I let her stay and sit in the floor to eat. She decided she wanted to sit by me and climbed on the bed, and starts hitting me with a pillow..I tell her to stop, and she kept it up..so I took the pillow away and tossed it in the floor, it would end up there at some point tonight anyway..and she got mad and took her plate and intentionally flipped it up side down spilling the spaghetti on the floor, and did the same with the snack bag of chips she brought up with it..I shut her in her room...she ran back into my room and started yelling at me..and I lost it..I yelled back at her and when she climbed up on the bed and started kicking at me, I spanked her.
I feel horrible for the way I handled it..it's been all day the she's been pushing and I couldn't be pushed anymore...I'm not saying what I did was right and please don't bash me..it's just been a constant fight with her all day today,..how can I get her to stop these horrible off days that she has and keep my cool at the same time? She's normally good at listening and doing what I tell her, and if she doesn't all it takes is threatening her before she moves...can anyone give me advice? No bashing..She turns 3 in June.
Asked by Anonymous at 11:05 PM on Mar. 22, 2011 in Preschoolers (3-4)
Answer by ohwrite at 11:18 PM on Mar. 22, 2011
We all have bad days, it happens to the best of us. I have 3 teenagers, but I remember the first time it happened all those years ago and I was appalled at myself. It is OK, you are human. The important thing is to remember you love your daughter, she loves you and you will both learn from today. Stop look back and think how things could have turned out differently if just one thing had been done differently, or one reaction had been different? Perhaps it would not have escalated to this level. It is easier when one steps back and looks at it in a different perspective. Try not looking at it as a whole, but one piece. And site back, have a glass of wine - or if you are like me, a glass of cherry coke.
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