I know that some say google it, but that doesn't give me IRL examples so much. I took a HPT Sunday, and it was a BFP! I was so excited! We hadnt been ttc for long, barely a month.
But then, all day Sunday at work I was cramping. I just put it off to being tired, body adjusting, etc. Well then in class yesterday, I began to bleed. Started off kinda brownish, but I decided to leave class and go to the ER, just to be safe I told myself.
I got to the hospital, and the bleeding was heavier, and now red.
I kinda knew, but was in denial.
Waited the 3 hours in the lobby before they called me to a room. Made me change into a gown, and the nurse was even asking me if this IS (not WAS) my first pregnancy, etc.
I thought maybe everything was ok.
Then the Dr came in, and told me I'd miscarried. It broke my heart. I couldn't believe it. I was there alone (DH was on his way, but we couldnt find a sitter at first. Once he found one, he came up there asap). I was crying when DH got to the room and he already knew. He was supportive, telling me these things just happen, its going to be ok, he loved me. But I felt I'd let him down, let us down somehow, because we were both so excited. I'd never had a mc JUST happen. I had one when I was 16, that happened from my ex pushing me down the stairs, but never one JUST happen. I have had 2 healthy babies. I just dont understand it. I feel I done something wrong, or my body is punishing me. I should have went home Sunday from work when I was cramping. I just feel like I should have known something wasn't right.
Now I want a baby worse than ever. Is that wrong? I didnt really expect to concieve as fast as I did, but I was so excited that I did. Now I just keep thinking if I got pregnant again, it may fix this sudden emptiness I feel. But then I feel like I'm over-reacting because I'd only had the positive pregnancy test the day before. BUT I KNEW I WAS PREGNANT a few weeks ago. I FELT it. I FELT different. I KNEW, but had to wait the right amount of time before taking the test to prove it.
How long should I wait to try again? The dr said 3 months, but surely that's just because they want me to "heal" emotionally. I don't think I will unless I can get pregnant again. But what if I MC again??? Does one mc make me now prone to them? I'm scared now. I want a baby, but now I'm terrified. I have so many emotions going through me, that I'm unsure of what to think. Any one have any advice on this subject? ANY AT ALL?
Answer by AngryBob at 6:57 AM on Mar. 23, 2011
Answer by AngryBob at 7:02 AM on Mar. 23, 2011
Answer by sta517 at 7:13 AM on Mar. 23, 2011
Answer by momofone221 at 7:36 AM on Mar. 23, 2011
After 1 miscarriage you are no more likely to have another one then you were before. I had mine after have 2 kids as well so I kind of know the thought process you are having right now. Nothing you would have done would have prevented it from happening.
The 3 months is for emotional reasons I took a bit longer to be ready. Take your time to grieve your loss maybe look around in the groups for support.
If you want to talk feel free to PM me. Very sorry for your loss.
Answer by Charis76 at 9:05 AM on Mar. 23, 2011
Answer by momof030404 at 10:09 AM on Mar. 23, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 11:57 AM on Mar. 23, 2011
Answer by Danyellimom at 1:27 PM on Mar. 23, 2011