I have been looking for mt birthdaughter for yrs I need help it was a closed adaption. I can't do this myself. I am alone and just need help finding her she will 20 in jan.Answer Question
Answer by robinalbright at 11:48 PM on Nov. 25, 2008
Answer by sylvia-ann at 12:03 AM on Nov. 26, 2008
Answer by Anonymous at 12:42 AM on Nov. 26, 2008
Answer by adoptivemommy24 at 12:53 AM on Nov. 26, 2008
Char, what state was she born and adopted in? Each state has its own laws concerning methods of disclosure of info, and avenues of search available. You should check (here) http://www.bastards.org/activism/access.htm for what the law will allow you.
In my state, WA, I had to be 25yo to search OR be found without my adoptive parents approval! Yeah.....I can drink, vote, marry, hold a licence, go to war.......But Heaven forbid- I want to know and meet MY Mother! I need my adoptive mommys permission! I am sick and tired of adoptees being treated as ~forever~ children in the eyes of the law!!!!!!!!!
Answer by adopteeme at 3:23 AM on Nov. 26, 2008
I would be more than happy to help you find resources to search on your own! Network with other Mothers and adoptees who have searched your state with success! I'd find search and support groups in your area. (I can help with a state by state listing) They can be of so much help- both with search, and, emotional support.
I wish my mom had searched for me. I'd like to publicly tell you- I think you are both brave and strong for searching for your daughter. Thank you- from an adoptee.
No more secrets ~ NO more lies.....We WANT our family Ties!
Answer by adopteeme at 3:36 AM on Nov. 26, 2008
I wanted to pass this on to you as well, in case you search one of those- HAHA - 'progressive" states that allow the use of a 3rd party - Confidential Intermediary.
been there, done that, myself. I got a canceled check for my efforts....and my mom got a "discreet" pffffffffft knock on her door by a social wrecker!
The Intermediary System is Not the Solution http://www.bastards.org/activism/theinter.html
Answer by adopteeme at 3:45 AM on Nov. 26, 2008
Answer by onethentwins at 9:02 PM on Nov. 26, 2008
Answer by mocamomma22 at 5:18 PM on Nov. 30, 2008