I was adopted at age 5. I've lived with my adoptive parents since I was 6 month old though. They are my parents! We were raised very religious, went to a mennonite church. Wore dresses, no makeup, the whole shebang....I left the church and home when I was 17. Went out, did my thing, moved in with a guy, really hurt my parents etc. In the last few years the fiancee I've been with now, has met my parents, come around, we now have a baby etc. And they've really lighted up. But, I tend to judge them based off on the way I was raised & statements made around me. for example my Daddy used to say he wouldn't give us away if they man didn't profess to be a Christian, or if he was divorced (being the church doesn't believe in d. and remarriage) they also made harsher statements like if people weren't married they wouldn't be "welcome in their house"..in other words they don't condone fornication, but wouldn't even allowed unmarried couples to spend then night in their house together, same room etc. since then whenever we go to visit them, we get a hotel, as to not put them in an awkward situation and so it's never brought to question. They treat my fiancee very nicely and absolutly love our son.
My fiancee or I are not professing Christians, but as I stated, my parents have come around. have stated they will come to the wedding and want to be in our lives even if we aren't "Christians". I lived a little "wild" for a few years, after leaving home. But have managed to stay in this relationship for 3 years now and our wedding is being planned for December 2012. I really want my Daddy to give me away, it'd be perfect..but I'm scared to ask because things have been going so good and if he says no, it'll really break my heart, and I've worked so hard lately to get them back in my life. Should I have my fiancee ask him to give me away? Or should I ask my Daddy myself, telling him how much it'd mean to me? I know I can't "have it all"..but I'd really, really want this. Perhaps, I should just be glad they want to come to my wedding and settle with that. But it'd almost be hurtful to me, if my Daddy was sitting in the crowd, yet not giving me away...
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