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So i have this friend who never wanted kids so now she has a baby and the father is a dead beat she live with me and my hubby casue she has no were to go and and all the time she is syaing she just wants time to her self how do i go about tellling her she dont ahve that right any more i have 2 kids and i never hae alone time she will just leave her in here walker and walk away and stay in the room for hours

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Asked by Anonymous at 8:57 PM on Mar. 23, 2011 in Relationships

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  • She needs a wake up call for sure. Does she have a job? If not, I would tell her she needs to get one and start paying rent or find another place to stay.

    Answer by Kword at 9:00 PM on Mar. 23, 2011

  • Just tell her to her face. That she might be living with you, but you're not her babysitter, she needs to take care of her kid. Does she work? help out? pay rent? if not give her an ultimatum.

    Answer by emmasmama2007 at 9:01 PM on Mar. 23, 2011

  • no job she says she dont want to miss out on the baby's life she buys her own food and the baby's food with food stamps but i jsut dont knw what to do

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 9:01 PM on Mar. 23, 2011

  • she will wash dishes and mop and vacuem thats about it but the thing is she just upset with the baby easy and she knws i have ahd to kids and she will just leave her with me dont tell me nothing just t walk away an thanking about tell her she needs to leave

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 9:03 PM on Mar. 23, 2011

  • Your qution made me ubset, beucese of your frind,,,she should grow up, tell her(hey stubid grow up, and u didn't deserve to live if u are not talking car of your baby. Tell her that her baby is a gift, and she didn't deserve that baby, and plz kick her out of your house and u rasie the baby. Lol

    Answer by lelly1019 at 9:05 PM on Mar. 23, 2011

  • i have told her a number of times i will take the baby and she never says nothing the dad s a drug head and has not done anything for this baby i have been with the baby since it was born in a lot of ways when she gets her she will cry and pitch a fit i guess the baby thanks am her mom casue i always have done for her changed her fed her etc

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 9:08 PM on Mar. 23, 2011

  • Call cps on her? or threaten to...she might get her sh*t together! its a shame for ppl who struggle to have kids and then you have irresponsible ppl like your friend...i would kill to able to hold my baby yet i cant! She should be grateful she has time with her kid!

    Answer by Erzy at 9:14 PM on Mar. 23, 2011

  • i agree we hve been trying for our 3rd child and no luck it upsets me am at the end of rope and sp is hubby so i thank shes gone

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 9:19 PM on Mar. 23, 2011

  • You DO have the right to have alone time, but you have to take that time responsibly. Putting the child in the walker and walking away isn't a bad thing, it's being away for hours that's the bad thing. You have to tell her "Look, you made the choice to keep your baby and now you have that responsibility. You have to get over your longing for complete freedom and own up to your situation. Be a parent to that child and take full ownership of that life that you brought into this world."

    Answer by JazzlikeMraz at 9:27 PM on Mar. 23, 2011

  • she dont want to get over not haveing freedom thats just the thing she always want to hve her own time she never holds her she is always in the walkers or swing or a play mat or the jhonny jump thing or i hve her she never feds her i do i out her to bed give bath etc

    Comment by Anonymous (original poster) at 9:32 PM on Mar. 23, 2011

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