Last night my fiancees parents asked him if I was pregnant ( I am not) My son is 18 months and I didnt lose all of my baby weight, I have an additional 10-15lbs more to lose but I have not let that get the best of me until now. I was taking pride in life and my family and didnt let the weight get to me. When he told his parents no, they didnt believe him they said they could clearly see it in my belly. This hurt a lot, and isnt the only insult I have gotten from them. My finacee wont talk to them about it because in his words "they arent very bright" and it wouldnt make a difference, they would forget what he said in a minute anyway and sadly hes right. I think they choose to be that way though. Plus they hold things over his head so he wouldnt be able to comfortably confront them without them saying "oh well we are paying for your college...etc " and make him feel bad. He will not let me say anything to them because again it will make it worse for him. His parents are both super heavy 290 and 400+ lbs so im sure this is making them feel better to insult me at 159 lbs. So far thats the only thing that has kept me kind of sane is knowing they are feeling bad about themselves. But the insults didnt stop there. My son was tired and was leaning on me and then he let himself go and plopped down on his rear (not a fall or anything bad) and my fiancees dad said that wasnt because my son was tired that was because of bad parenting...although 20 minutes later my son was fast asleep. His mother told me she always liked his other gf and thought he would end up with her. He did correct her when she made that comment but it did no good. My first day home from the hospital with my son I was holding him and his sister said " look mommy shes finally holding her son and bonding like how we talked and said she wasnt doing in the first place" The reason i couldnt bond to begin with is because they wouldnt put him down in the hospital, they thought it was their right to hold him as guests. What are some things you all do to either get over this, get it out of your head, or deal with it?
Answer by CollinsMommy729 at 9:48 AM on Mar. 24, 2011
Answer by BaileysMom476 at 9:35 AM on Mar. 24, 2011
Sounds like they are toxic people and I would cut them out of my life. I don't spend a lot of time with my inlaws because they are very similar to yours. Let your fiancee see his parents if he wants, but don't feel like you have to go along.
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