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Ahhh my daughter is driving me nuts with this potty-training stuff!

she is showing a lot of signs of readiness. she stays dry for 3-4 hours, tells me when she's pooped, goes and sits on her potty (fully-clothed) when either myself or her older sister uses the bathroom. yesterday i ran out of pull-ups, and i really don't like them. i think her mindset is "if it feels like a diaper, looks like a diaper, it's a diaper and i can pee/poop in it" so today i put her in big girl panties. she has yet to have an accident in them and i put them on her about 3 hours ago. i started out this morning by taking her to her potty every 30-40 minutes and letting her sit there for about 5-10 minutes each time, so she gets comfortable with the idea. the first couple of times its all fun and games and she is excited about going. but by the 4th or 5th time she's over it and wants to get up within a minute or two. the last time she went i let her get up, then she wanted to go back and did NOT want to get off the potty. she sat there for a good 20 minutes. i kept asking her if she had to go and she said no, but she also didn't want to get up. finally she got up and wanted to brush her teeth, and then threw a fit because i made her stop after 15 minutes. so she had about a half an hour meltdown over that, and ended up peeing finally but in her pants. she's really sensitive and strong-willed so i think she only wants to go if SHE wants to and not if someone tells her to. which is fine, but she always ends up missing the potty! the only reason i want to take her every so often is so she understands eventually that her potty is where she pees. we're both getting frustrated and it's not working so clearly it's not time. so do i let her wait until she's older, even though she has some signs of readiness? or back off a little and keep her in regular panties during the day, just taking her less frequently?


Asked by tnm786 at 10:29 AM on Mar. 24, 2011 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • keep to it! if she was showing signs and still is keep up with it.. when she starts to really not want to do it at all and starts having BMs and wets herself often back off for a few days and try again when she is ready but it sounds like you are doing it right to me

    Answer by zoejains_momma at 10:32 AM on Mar. 24, 2011

  • repetition will save you

    Answer by khf22 at 10:34 AM on Mar. 24, 2011

  • it took awhile for my son to get the hang of going potty in the toilet and i noticed that the pull ups are just like diapers really so do your best in reading your daughter maybe wait awhile try again putting her in big girl underwear - see how that goes - but honestly dont stress about it they will get it and the pedtrician will likely tell you them same so no worries keep trying and she will get it :)

    Answer by LoveOurChild11 at 10:39 AM on Mar. 24, 2011

  • Sounds like you are doing all the right things. Just a little tip,that helped us with my granddaughter. We got those "Can Do" wipes, for big kids. We made a big deal out of going to the store,and let Jaycie pick them out, and told her she could only use them if she went potty in the toilet. We made sure she knew they weren't baby wipes, but for big kids, who use the potty. It really helped her, because it made her feel like a big kid. Good luck with your little one!

    Answer by cbk_mom3 at 10:43 AM on Mar. 24, 2011

  • she's 27 months btw

    Comment by tnm786 (original poster) at 10:31 AM on Mar. 24, 2011

  • thanks! i just really want her to accomplish that first pee or BM in the potty, i feel like that is the biggest hill to go over when starting potty training. once she does it that first time, it's all down-hill from there! im trying to balance being patient but also listening to her cues too. i dont want to be too pushy or too lax about it. i just dont know! lol

    Comment by tnm786 (original poster) at 10:34 AM on Mar. 24, 2011

  • maybe i should just take her every hour instead of twice an hour. she stays dry for so long anyway so i guess its kinda dumb to take her so often since she pees a lot less. i know she usually poops around this time so i hope to catch that LOL. maybe i just need to back off a little but keep up with the panties during the day.

    Comment by tnm786 (original poster) at 10:40 AM on Mar. 24, 2011

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