I'm in the state of PA. I am going to file for divorce, a no contested one. We own nothing, other than vehicles. He is taking the one that is paid for, waiting for the title to get switched to his name. I am keeping the van. We have 2 children, so we are going to attend parenting workshop for divorced parents. I would prefer he and I be able to come to an agreement with custody on our own and have the papers I got from a lawyer done and notarized. I don't have thousands of dollars to spend on some lawyer telling us custody arrangements. I feel I should have the kids all week and he get them from Friday after day care to Sunday late afternoon. I think the stability of a normal routine is best. He of course can't agree on anything. He wants to do some crazy split of 2 days here, 2 days there, then alternate weekends....no consistency for them at all. To add to the mix, he has no job. He is living at his mom's. The ONE job he applied for is swing shifts, long hours. I think he should look for a "normal" job if he is so concerned about spending time with the kids. Plus who knows if he will even sign the papers at the end of the 90 days.
I am at the point where I am just ready to tell him, this is what I am offering for the kids well being. If you don't agree then you get a lawyer and sue me for custody. To top it off in October he is to leave for 6-8 weeks to begin training for deployment (he is national guard). So to me, being civil would make more sense .... but he want TOTAL control, always has.
Am I doing the right thing? Any suggestions or advice of what to watch out for? What to expect, etc. Thanks.
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