My husband is a veteran with severe PTSD. He and I both were big drinkers that led to huge fights and sometimes got physical mostly me being the physical one. Since that time, I have had a daughter, and have for the most part given up drinking. I will have a drink on the weekends. But just one. My husband on the other hand will have 3 or 4 every weekend night, and usually behind my back also takes prescription pills to, as I believe, intensify this buzz. A month ago, I gave him the ultimatum, that it was us or his drinking, because it leads to serious fighting. He said obviously it would be us. Then, the weekend rolls around and he'll talk me into letting him have " a drink to unwind" and I give in. It usually results in more than one. Today, he found out he is losing his job, and said to me, "I need a drink. Pull out the vodka." ( p.s I hid it because he asked me too, he just admitted to me on Monday he believes he has a problem with it) So stupid me, feeling like the man deserves a drink, I got it out. He made one drink alright! With 3 shots in it, and tonight he was acting so dumb, I threatened to leave him, I actually gave him my wedding ring. Now, he's talking to himself, being loud to keep our daughter awake, and saying that he'll get full custody of our daughter because I don't make money. I'm a stay at home mom. Help I feel helpless.... Somebody please tell me what I need to do. I can't keep our daughter in this situation, but I love him, and I want to help him. I just can't believe we are in this position. He's the love of my life, and ever since deployment, I haven't had my husband back. By the way he has ADHD and is on meds for it.
Asked by Anonymous at 10:46 PM on Mar. 24, 2011 in Relationships
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Answer by vbruno at 10:55 PM on Mar. 24, 2011
I hate that you are going through such a trying time and situation with your family. I don't think I have the right words or advice to say on your situation but to make sure you and are your daughter are safe because emotions and situations intensify when drinking is involved. All I can say is get HELP for your family immediately whether it is professional, spiritual, close reliable and dependable friends. Drinking, arguing, and becoming physical along with his mental/medical conditions are not a good mix!!! I wish you all the best!!
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