my man and i both work nights, so just to clarify, "the middle of the night" to you all is two pm for us.
we don't "live" together, but he comes home to my house every morning from work. he has told me lately that he's really uncomfortable that i've had male friends over on nights i'm not working. one guest is a guy i work with, who bf knows and likes, who came by to have a couple beers on a nite bf was actually supposed to be home. the other is my best friend's husband (also a nite person) who came to help me pack up some household things his wife had loaned me that i no longer used and she wanted back. she knew her hubby was here, and he and i have been friends for 7 years. they live a block away and we're all very close.
basically my boyfriend has indicated that this is really inappropriate in his opinion, asking, "how would you feel?" the problem is, i wouldn't care. if female friends of his that were close enough to be considered family came by his house to hang out, that's really none of my business, and i wouldn't be bothered by it. i totally do NOT get why this is a big deal. he isn't accusing me of anything, but... he wants me to agree not to have a man in my home pretty much anytime he's not here.
to him, it simply isn't done that way, it's disrespectful to him, he says.
to me, it feels like he's trying to isolate me ( i do have issues with ex boyfriends that were very controlling, so i'm trying to leave that aside, but that's how it feels. what else is he gonna take away? cleavage tops? girls' nite out? that's how i feel.)
please, any advice on how to find a happy medium? am i really wrong? these aren't guys i have history with. one's practically a brother and the other is just a friend, who actually adores my bf and has NEVER hit on me, even when i was single.
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