Three of our children are toddlers...Ages almost 4 (DS), almost 3 (ODD), and just-turned 1 (YDD). DS and ODD have gotten into this horrible stage where they BOTH ask me the same question over and over again, no matter how many times I repeat it, until I finally just say "Stop. I've already answered that question."..Of course 5 minutes later they are asking it again... And if I try to do something with ONE child, I get the "What about me, Mommy?" or "My turn Mommy!" (even if I've already done it with the other child, like when we play "airplane". Or when I read to them, they will think the book is only for one child, and then ask if I'll read it again to them, which isn't a big deal if they don't ask for the same book over and over for an hour. lol). Even when it's something like me feeding YDD, DS and ODD want me to feed them, too. And DS is now even acting like he doesn't know stuff that he knows (colors, shapes, letters) when I'm trying to teach ODD (and yes, I do include him--give him his turns without him asking). Like today, I was teaching ODD shapes and colors, and I stopped and started showing DS the chart, and I was like "Okay, what color is this?" and pointed to black. He goes "um, it's red". I kept going "No. What color is this? You know the color." and he named EVERY color he knew but black. So I put the chart away and he goes "It's black Mommy! I know it's black!" but he did it to EVERY color I tried with him. Same with his shapes (I pointed to a circle and he said Triangle).. Mind you, this is a boy that was evaluated a few days ago, that is just under 2 months shy of 4, and his intellegence is at a 5-6 year old level...And with ODD, she's acting "babyish" to get the attention that YDD is getting. If the baby cries, well, she has to cry. If I am holding the baby, she cries "Mommy, you need hold me!"... I do give them each lots of affection all day long, and I do special things with each of them for 1-on-1 time...So I don't know where it's coming from.
I know it's a stage where they want everything about them, and they want all the attention that the other children are getting, but how do I stop having to repeat everything 20 times? And how can I do/say something just once (or a few times) with each child without it turning into an all day event? It's really frustrating... I love my children to death, don't get me wrong. But it's really hard when I'm repeating myself ALL DAY LONG (words or actions). Ideas?
(P.S. Right now I can't do the whole Mommy/Child all day date thing--DH is gone for the next 2 weeks, and we are overseas, and the kids are never with babysitters...But any other ideas are welcome! I just want my children to be happy and for me to not get frustrated, because even though I would never tell them how frustrating it is, I'm sure there are times when they pick up on it, no matter how big of a smile I put on my face)
Asked by Anonymous at 11:06 AM on Mar. 26, 2011 in Preschoolers (3-4)
Answer by katieandchris01 at 11:12 AM on Mar. 26, 2011
Answer by hopeandglory53 at 12:31 PM on Mar. 26, 2011
Answer by karischub at 1:10 PM on Mar. 26, 2011
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