My Husband and I are in the process of buying a house. We are so excited for it!!! and we are actually looking forward to having some hoildays at home. Right now my husband and I and our daughter have an Apartment and we travel and hour in a half every other weekend to see my husbands family. Now that our baby is getting mobil it is hard to go up and stay over because the house is not child proofed. Its a mess actually always pretty dirty. They vacume and try to tidy before we come because they know how much it irritates me.
How can we make the message clear and say it in a non bitchy way that we will be owning our own home soon and want to spent time there and have some traditions of our own. Not just having to travel to see them all the time. ..
When I say how can "We" make the message clear but I really mean ME because my husband would go up every weekend if he could... it always causes arguments. His family is always TOP priority. I realized I married his family as well .. but give me a break..
How would you handle this..?
Asked by Anonymous at 1:00 PM on Mar. 26, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by sahlady at 1:02 PM on Mar. 26, 2011
Well it is great to have the grandparents i the child's life. No one house is going to be as clean as you would like it to be. But you don't want to hurt there feeling or cause problems between you an the hubby. But I think that once you get your house you should try inviting them there an make them feel as comfortable as possible. I would just talk to them an let them Know, that nw that you all have your own house u would like to start doing things there as a family an that the y are more than welcomed to come an visit an make those memories with you guys. The key thing is to make them feel welcomed.
Answer by inlovewith4 at 1:07 PM on Mar. 26, 2011
Answer by smiley745 at 1:07 PM on Mar. 26, 2011
Answer by Mom-2-3-Girlz at 1:09 PM on Mar. 26, 2011
Answer by NannyB. at 1:16 PM on Mar. 26, 2011
Answer by lovingmy4babies at 1:35 PM on Mar. 26, 2011
Answer by dusty1962 at 7:07 PM on Mar. 26, 2011