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What to do, very confused!

Okay I have a twenty year old niece with emotional problems. Her body and emotional state would be the age of an 11 year old(she will probably never have a period), which is sad, but My mom is constantly asking me if my 20 year old niece could play with my 5 and 7 year old, and I told her no. I understand my niece's mind is of a child, but she's a big girl, and she's still considered an adult. I'm afraid if she's playing with my little girls she could fall on them and hurt them because she's a big girl. I believe they should take my niece and get her some training so she could start being more independent, and stop holding her back. There are vocational schools out there who can help her get ready for the real world. Every time I take my little ones to the park, Easter egg hunting, birthday parties with their friends, my mom constantly ask me to take my 20 year old niece. I'm so furious right now because they need to take her somewhere and get her some training, not allow her to hang around little kids all because she have a mind like one. Am I a mean aunt, or do you guys agree with me? I need honest answers please.


Asked by Anonymous at 1:00 PM on Mar. 26, 2011 in Kids' Health

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Answers (2)
  • Unfortunately, there probably is a limit as to how independent your niece can get . . . her brain is the limiting factor. There are other options, though, as to how she can stay entertained. There are adult day care programs that cateur to the developmentally disabled. There, she can find friends like her and learn to socialize with other adults. They will give her living skills training to try to help her come as independent as possible.
    That being said, a lot of seriously DD individuals who seem "independant" because they do not live at home are really just as dependant on their board and care operators and day care counselors . . . it just shifts the responsibility.
    You can always research some specialized day care options in your area for your mom, though. Your neice will probably get a huge self-esteem boost with her new adult friends.

    Answer by ImaginationMama at 1:09 PM on Mar. 26, 2011

  • no i completely agree with you. getting her help will get her to realize things and it might help her emotional state a bit. she COULD hurt someone if shes not careful.
    she needs help. if my kids where like that i'd get them some help

    Answer by Liebevoll_mami at 1:13 PM on Mar. 26, 2011