My dad is dying of cancer, he has less than a year to live. He is not religious, he claims to be Presbyterian, but hasn't gone to a Presbyterian church in the past 30 years. He will very rarely go to Catholic mass with my mother if it is an important event, like a baptism or first communion for a grandchild, but is uncomfortable and obviously would rather be anywhere else.
My mom's family are all Catholic except one sister, who joined the Mormon church as an adult. When my Grandfather (Mom's dad) was dying my aunt tried to give him the Mormon blessing, so he could get into heaven. He didn't want it and refused it. She waited until he was incapable of getting up and when my Grandma went to church and gave him the blessing anyway. He was greatly offended and told her not to come back. And told my grandma to never leave him alone with her again. It was not wanted or appreciated, and my grandparents and the entire Catholic family were quite offended.
Fast forward 25 years, it is now my dad who is dying and she is again insistent that she give him the Mormon blessing. He doesn't want it! And my mom who is still angry about the blessing her father received is livid. She called me this morning to make me promise that when my father is incapacitated that he never be left alone if she has to leave the room because she doesn't want her sister to try and sneak in the blessing.
My mom lied to her sister and said that he has already had the Catholic blessing and is going to have the Catholic annointing, which he has also refuse. And my mom who is so offended by my sister pushing her beliefs, is doing the same thing. She is trying to force my father into getting the Catholic blessing and anointing.
Both are so blind to the wishes of my father, it is sickening.
Would you push your beliefs on someone past the point of refusal? Are your beliefs so strong that you think they should trump a dying man's wishes?
And how would you deal with people like this?
Asked by Anonymous at 1:17 PM on Mar. 26, 2011 in Religious Debate
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