I will be blunt and honest: I don't give blowjobs very often. I feel like it is degrading, because I gag a lot and that seems to make it hotter for him. I have only been with one other person before him, and was basically treated like a sex object.
I am almost ready to pop with our first child, and all he has been talking about lately is blowjobs, and how he thinks that if I'm not going to do it, that he should be able to go get blowjobs somewhere else. Nothing else. Just a blowjob. Like that makes it better or something.
All I want to do is cry over the idea that the person I'm married to doesn't respect me enough the way I am, or our marriage the way it is, or the fact that I'm 8 1/2 months pregnant with our baby.
He says he wouldn't actually do it unless I said ok, but that he doesn't see anything wrong with it. That bothers me even more that he doesn't see anything wrong with it. I just feel like everything we have and the life we have built and the fact that I still have sex every day after working and going to school and keeping a house isn't enough for him to respect our marriage.
I have asked him how he would feel if I was the one saying that I wanted something sexual that he couldn't/wouldn't do for me, and he says that he doesn't care what I do as long as he is satisfied. That hurts me even more.
It is like when we make love it isn't special enough to him to be enough. And worse yet, that it the most important thing in our relationship.
I just want to bawl. I want to leave, honestly. I don't want to have to worry about this shit. I don't want to worry that my husband is going to go "get it somewhere else". Part of me thinks that there is no way I could be showing any respect for myself if I stay with someone who talks like that.
And another thing...I used to do it for a little bit almost every time we had sex. But now, I feel like if/when I do even for a little bit like I am doing it just to keep him from getting it somewhere else. It just makes me want to cry instead of feeling intimate with him. That isn't how it should be.
Has anyone else experienced this? What do I do? I am just so hurt?
Asked by Anonymous at 7:17 PM on Mar. 26, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by Kword at 7:24 PM on Mar. 26, 2011
Answer by Nanixh at 7:24 PM on Mar. 26, 2011
Answer by shay1130 at 7:40 PM on Mar. 26, 2011
Answer by shay1130 at 7:21 PM on Mar. 26, 2011
i am sooo sorry mommy and congrats on ur lil one.. i think how he is acting to u is totaly disrespectful! you shouldnt have to deal with that :( i really dont have an answer for what you should do if my SO started acting like that it would make me not even want to give him a bj anymore :(
Answer by kylansmommy09 at 7:23 PM on Mar. 26, 2011
Answer by calliesmommie at 7:28 PM on Mar. 26, 2011
Thats a good idea shay1130!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Answer by kylansmommy09 at 7:45 PM on Mar. 26, 2011
Answer by kylansmommy09 at 7:27 PM on Mar. 26, 2011
Answer by lowencope at 7:27 PM on Mar. 26, 2011
Tell him how you feel about it . If you consider it cheating tell him that. He is very selfish.
Answer by louise2 at 7:28 PM on Mar. 26, 2011
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