We lost our middle son when our oldest was about 2yrs old. Whenever it comes up, we just tell him that his brother went to heaven with the angels and he can't come back anymore. It was hard for a long time because he really didn't understand, but now he's 4 1/2 and he seems to at least get that his brother isn't coming back. It breaks my heart into a million pieces to hear him say he misses him and wishes he could play with him, but I know we did the right thing explaining it to him from the beginning. Alot of people suggested that we just ignore it and explain it when he got older bc he wouldn't really remember him anyway, but I just didn't feel right about that. It's hard to explain the situation, but in the end I really thing it's the right thing to do...I'm so sorry for your loss and wish you strength to deal with all that comes with it...
at 12:58 AM on Mar. 27, 2011