Let me start out by saying that my sister's mother has been much more of a mother to me than my own mother. She is who I go to for parenting advice, she is who wants to be at my girls' games, she is at their birthdays, etc.
I just got a terrible phone call from my sister, who was crying hysterically. My "mama" had a seizure while driving and was in a car accident. That is not the worst part, the accident was mild. The reason she had the seizure was because there is a GRAPEFRUIT sized tumor in her brain, which they say is putting pressure on the part of her brain that controls motor function. They say the tumor is benign and they want to operate tomorrow, but the surgery is risky, and doing nothing basically means that mom is done for. for now, she is on life support.
She had a stroke several years ago, and since then her mobility has started to decline. As has her vision. As has her memory. All of these things we blamed on the stroke and age, but now we know that everything has probably been the tumor. The doctor says it is so slow growing that we wouldn't have seen a "shocking change", just gradual like what we saw...and not to blame ourselves for not recognizing it...but that is damn hard advice to take.
To make it worse, my LP saw the accident but didn't realize it was my mother. I didn't get the first phone call, and didn't think anything of it at all when my sister didn't answer when I called back a couple hours later...I feel guilty over that. Plus, my LP's father died of an eriely similar condition 20 years ago...I mean the similarities are striking. The progression, the "final straw", everything.
I am shaking in my boots. I really don't know how to deal with this emotionally. My kids will be so upset. I am scared for her. My sisters are so rattled and of course I want to comfort them too, but I am rattled myself. We talked mostly about the practical things. What she wants, what the next step is, what legally needs to happen (she doesn't have a written power of attorney, and just a hand written will), whether 8 kids can agree on the way things should be handled.
This is purely awful...and I don't know how to cope just through the overnight. As bad as it sounds, I just want to be through the surgery tomorrow so we will know SOMETHING. I want to know what we are dealing with. I could just be sick.
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