knowing him i'd say 2% because he outright refuses AA, counseling... anything like that, AND he's decided to stop drinking or "cut back" a million times in our 9 yr relationship. it's gotten to the point where he says "i'm going to quit" and i want to be supportive so i say "good job!" but inside i'm like "ugh, not again". because i know the rollercoaster that it puts me through. yeah, me, not him. sounds selfish, but i end up jumping through hoops to help him out and the longest he's ever lasted without a drink is 3 weeks (when he was shooting for 4 weeks).
i'm miserable when he's drunk and sober.
Asked by Anonymous at 9:24 AM on Mar. 27, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by Nickcole23 at 9:27 AM on Mar. 27, 2011
Answer by gemgem at 9:28 AM on Mar. 27, 2011
Answer by elizabr at 9:29 AM on Mar. 27, 2011
Being an alcoholic I can tell you that my personal experience has been one of the same ups and downs. You don't just stop wanting a drink after "x" amount of days. It's an everyday battle. I didn't do AA or counceling and neither did my husband. We help each other. Don't put up with his bullshit. It sounds like you were already done with the relationship so I won't bother offering any advice on what to do about the roller coaster thing.
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 9:40 AM on Mar. 27, 2011
Answer by desperateat48 at 9:51 AM on Mar. 27, 2011
Answer by desperateat48 at 10:10 AM on Mar. 27, 2011
You say you stay because something comes up and he needs you. What he really needs is for you to stop enabling him. Do not stay with him and help him through. Let him hit rock bottom. It is hard to do but sticking around helping him through is just giving him enough help so he can go back to drinking.
Answer by Alanaplus3 at 10:36 AM on Mar. 27, 2011
Answer by Obi.Ren.Kenobi at 10:39 AM on Mar. 27, 2011