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how many times should a child be allowed to bite another in daycare before the nursery should say enough is enough and do something about it. or should the child remain in the school and keep biting and hitting?

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Asked by luckymefor2kids at 9:59 PM on Nov. 26, 2008 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • If it's YOUR child doing the biting BITE your kid back so he knows it hurts and it's wrong. If it's someone elses kid biting your kid tell the daycare your lawyer will want to have a chat with them and that you want the name and number of the insurance company for the daycare so you can get them to pay the medical expenses for your child being seen by a Dr to make sure there is no health issues from some kid biting yours. The mouth is a filthy place and biting spreads allot of germs.

    Answer by vbruno at 10:57 PM on Nov. 26, 2008

  • Sounds like a question for the daycare director.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:00 PM on Nov. 26, 2008

  • if your child bites pull them out until it stops if it is another child suggest a bite pillow they can teach the child to display their anger on something besides your child. if all else fails social services has other things they can do expecially if the adults aren't stopping it.

    Answer by Theoneandonly at 3:57 AM on Nov. 27, 2008

  • Most centers have a 3 bite policy. If the child bites 3 times (serious bites, leaving bruises or drawing blood) the child will be dismissed from the school and not allowed to return until the behavior has been corrected. It varies from school to school, but any good center will have a bite policy in place.

    Answer by RenaeMom3277 at 9:14 AM on Nov. 27, 2008

  • I think the 1st answer given is the craziest thing I have ever heard.....You have to find something that works for everyone watching the child. Would you want your childcare provider to bite your kid back? Hell no. I agree with the three bite rule. Depending on the age there alot of reasons kids bite you put this with the age of 3-4 by that age they know better and there doing it for negative reasons. Who is the child biting your child or someone Else's?


    Answer by megan772 at 10:29 AM on Nov. 27, 2008

  • the person that told you to bite back is an ass. maybe you should teach him not to hit by punching him in the face too. biting is not always about pain. sometimes children are teething, especially toddlers with the molars. i think you need to speak to the teacher about keeping the biter and bitee apart. that is the easiest way. also, give the biter words to use so frustrations can be expressed other ways than biting. i don't think kicking a child out of care is a good idea.

    Answer by trepsica at 9:46 PM on Nov. 28, 2008

  • also, the three bite policy is crap. you need to learn what is causing the child to bite. frustration? anger? teething? boredom? interest in cause and effect? and then find an outlet for the biting.

    Answer by trepsica at 9:47 PM on Nov. 28, 2008

  • At the center where I worked yrs ago if a child bit twice in one day the child was asked to leave. I am old school, I have 5 kids and only one bitter but he was never one until he was bitten by a cousin...I finally bit him back and hard....end of bitting story!

    Answer by salexander at 10:42 AM on Nov. 30, 2008

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