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My step-daughter is planning to get married on my big 50 and I am not sure what to do. My family has been planning a party for me with all my old friends and current friends. I don't want to seem selfish but when she set the date, she told us it was the best date for her mom and husbands family and did not conflict with anyone elses plans or events. I have been in her life since 1999 and my birthdate has never changed. I might add her birthday is 3 weeks before mine in the same month and we have often celebrated together.
I don't want to take away from her big day but this day is also an important milestone in my life. When my other step-daughter was married recently I was very uncomfortable at the ceremony and was not included in any part of the ceremony. Her mom did the seating arrangements and I was sat at a childs table while my husband was sat with the wedding party. I want her wedding to be all she has ever dreamed of however I don't want to let my own family down with all the plans they have made. I want my husband to enjoy his daughters wedding but I would like some opinions on if I chose not to attend the wedding and my own party in another state if this would be a poor judgement call on my part.
I love my step girls and husband and do not want to create any ill feelings. My husband is not willing to approach his daughter about our previous plans as his ex wife has a way of belittling him at any cost. Thanks for the advice.
Answer by Liamsmom09 at 11:58 AM on Mar. 27, 2011
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Answer by Christine0813 at 12:04 PM on Mar. 27, 2011
Answer by gammie at 12:07 PM on Mar. 27, 2011
She obviously didn't care enough about you to plan her wedding date for any other day in the entire year. Just last week another poster wrote on a relationship question this reply and I think it might fit this situation - Don't make someone a priority who makes you an option. May not be an exact quote but close enough. I would send your step daughter a card wishing her the best and then go to my own party where I am the priority. And in closing...you being seated at the children's table at the last wedding would have kept me from even considering attending another. Good Luck to you and enjoy your 50th birthday party!!!!!
Answer by meooma at 12:07 PM on Mar. 27, 2011
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