so my hubby had this addiction to chatting with girls online getting naked pics of them texting them..texting themeven went as far as to tell one girl he loved her n missed everytime they wouldnt get to talk.made up a different name each time he made a new profile so no one really knew who he was. :( i only found this out november of 2010 n he had been doing it for over a year with out me knowing while i was pregnant at that...i had a feelin that he was doing stuff but everytime i got the chance to check his phone the history would be cleared he would always want to have his phone on silent 24/7. i feel so hurt still i want to forgive him n move on be happy. i jst think im always gonna have a trust issue unless we get help..he says he was addicted n it had nothing to do with me..i just dont get it..i feel like it has everything to do with me because he hurt me n did it to me behind my back..so does counseling really work??Answer Question
Answer by proudteenmom13 at 2:07 PM on Mar. 27, 2011
Answer by gemgem at 2:08 PM on Mar. 27, 2011
Addiction is addiction. Please just be kind to yourself. Families of addicts tend to blame themselves. Look for a al anon support group. You are not alone.
Answer by rosetoes at 2:18 PM on Mar. 27, 2011
Marriage counselling only works.. IF BOTH parties actually put in the effort and dedication there needs to be in order for it to work. Both parties need to be on the same page. Both parties need to WANT to make their marriage a better one. Both parties have to be will to work hard and do whatever it takes TOGETHER to rebuild their marriage after infidelity happens.
If both parties are not willing to delve deeply and honestly into themselves and their marriage, to not only find out why the cheating happened, but to also be honest about any and all issues/problems (big and small) that the marriage/individuals in the marriage had both before and after the infidelity. Then the counselling, much less rebuilding of the marriage, will not work.
Answer by pixie_trix at 2:37 PM on Mar. 27, 2011
Answer by Inloveagain at 3:23 PM on Mar. 27, 2011
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Answer by MissMisse53 at 6:11 PM on Apr. 15, 2011