Is it offensive for APs to tell the stories of their children's birth parents if they are on drugs or placed for adoption to avoid removal by DHS?
Why birth moms get upset at these stories? If they are not on drugs and are good parents, why do they take it personally?
Asked by Anonymous at 2:16 PM on Mar. 27, 2011 in Adoption
Answer by gemgem at 2:18 PM on Mar. 27, 2011
Answer by kylansmommy09 at 2:21 PM on Mar. 27, 2011
Answer by kayalouise at 2:28 PM on Mar. 27, 2011
Answer by gemgem at 2:29 PM on Mar. 27, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 2:39 PM on Mar. 27, 2011
I am not an adoptive parent... but my bff is. I think it is WRONG for the adoptive parents to put the birth parents in a bad light.
Children do not need to know, while they are little, that their birth parents were drug addicted or simply incompetent. I think for the sake of the children (ALL DESICIONS SHOULD BE MADE FOR THE SAKE OF THE CHILDREN) the adoptive parents should simply say that the birth parents were unable to give you the life they knew you deserved and we loved you so much that we brought you home to be our forever children.
Answer by Anonymous at 2:57 PM on Mar. 27, 2011
WHEN the kids are teens/young adults and start asking the questions you can give them more information. But really why would you tell a child that they are genetically related to an incompetent person... a young child could internalize that and make it part of their identity.
~~~~ as for the parents to tell their friends and/or relatives... it is simply tacky. You can give the very basic information to those who need it... other wise it is simply tacky gossip!
Answer by Anonymous at 2:59 PM on Mar. 27, 2011
Answer by onethentwins at 4:26 PM on Mar. 27, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 5:08 PM on Mar. 27, 2011
Answer by frogdawg at 7:00 PM on Mar. 27, 2011