My son's dad and I are broken up. We do not speak, as we're legally not supposed to. Because of my "situation" - I'm depressed and went through a suicidal phase last year - most people don't trust me to have my son here alone. I don't blame them for that, so supervised visits are fine. My son WAS staying with my parents up to five nights a week (we live in different cities), where we would be able to Skype for about 10-30 minutes every night, depending on my 3-year old's attention span. That recently went down to two DAYS a week, for only a few hours - sometimes we'd get in a quick phone call or Skype conversation, but mostly they'd be too busy at my parents' house.
Today I get told that my parents do not know when Aden will be there again. Apparently his dad has decided he doesn't want my son going there, as he thinks they're "trash talking" him in front of Aden. My parents are not spiteful and they don't show their feelings in front of their own children, let alone their grandchildren. It's not like them to talk negatively about others, and they have been through messy divorced themselves - they know better than to do that, and I know they wouldn't. But for some reason, he thinks they are. So he's decided my son won't be going there any longer.
Up until now, I figured everyone on "his side" couldn't be on "my side", so I assumed his family hated me too - but it turns out that even my ex's own mother (and he's a mama's boy) knows that my son should be spending time with my parents (instead of some stranger babysitting) and that he should still be close with me. Evidently, my ex is the only one who thinks otherwise.
Is he being unreasonable? How can I fix this? Should I get in touch with my ex-MIL?
I'm really at the end of my road here...I have no idea what to do next.
If my story seems patchy, I'll be glad to answer any questions. I need help!
Answer by lovingmy4babies at 3:52 PM on Mar. 27, 2011
Answer by vbruno at 3:23 PM on Mar. 27, 2011
Answer by MoneyGirl-Mom at 3:25 PM on Mar. 27, 2011
Answer by ImaginationMama at 3:26 PM on Mar. 27, 2011
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