am considering having an affair. yes, I know--how could I? I'm not sure. I ADORE my Dh. But we've been thru alot of crap with his ex and I've felt the need for an "escape." just elsewhere. not to mention that i'm over 40 and need to know that DH isn't the only one who finds me desirable. yes, we have a great sex life but I must admit that he can't give it to me as much as I want it. I have toys but they don't do the trick.
I just want to feel the sexual desire from someone else--not necessarily that I actually want to have sex with this other guy--just the IDEA that this guys wants me has made my sex-drive TRIPLE! and I think about him all the time!
I also have anxiety issues about being around other people (yes, I've done therapy to no avail and along with the constant drama of Dh's ex, I'm pretty damn happy.
so why can't I get this other guy out of my mind?
Asked by Anonymous at 11:23 PM on Nov. 26, 2008 in Relationships
Answer by Anonymous at 11:26 PM on Nov. 26, 2008
Answer by Anonymous at 11:28 PM on Nov. 26, 2008
Because you are dwelling on these thoughts! Everyone occasionally has brief flashes of these kind of thoughts, but when you are in a committed relationship you don't allow yourself the indulgence of considering them! You can choose to put the thoughts out of your mind, have some self control, and tell yourself, "NO! I'm not gonna even think about it because I love my husband, he loves me, and that is too precious to mess with!" To do anything else would be selfish and stupid! Our ability to control our fleshly desires is what separates us from the animals!
Answer by Anonymous at 11:29 PM on Nov. 26, 2008
Answer by IsaiahsMommy515 at 11:30 PM on Nov. 26, 2008
Answer by ReneeK3 at 11:31 PM on Nov. 26, 2008
Answer by krazyash023 at 11:35 PM on Nov. 26, 2008
Answer by Kimebs at 11:57 PM on Nov. 26, 2008
Every relationship has it's ups and downs but it's the love, strength, TRUST, HONESTY and the vows you committed to between the two of you that gets you through them. Could you look your DH in the eye and admit what you've done (if you have the affair)? Could you keep it to yourself? Would you have any regrets? These are some things you should be asking yourself. Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with looking at the menu as long as you don't order.
Answer by LovingParent08 at 12:13 AM on Nov. 27, 2008
Answer by koolest_mom_of4 at 12:21 AM on Nov. 27, 2008
Answer by momofangels5 at 12:57 AM on Nov. 27, 2008
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