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If you spank in your house what would you do if your husband spanked and it left marks on your son?

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Asked by greenbeanmoma at 8:40 PM on Mar. 27, 2011 in Parenting Debate

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  • I would suggest anger management courses, that is just not right.

    Answer by older at 8:41 PM on Mar. 27, 2011

  • Is your dh sons biological father? I would hope that discipline is an agreed to matter that was decided from the beginning.

    Answer by BraenatsNeeNee at 8:43 PM on Mar. 27, 2011

  • – collapse
    I don't have a son

    Answer by janet116 at 8:44 PM on Mar. 27, 2011 (hidden) + expand

  • Kick him out. My dh knows Id probably beat his ass myself if he ever laid a finger on my children and let alone left marks.

    Answer by gemgem at 8:55 PM on Mar. 27, 2011

  • I don't beleave in spanking at all in my house. If you want to teach your kids not to be vilant then you can't be vilant with them eather.(My veaws, I don't judge) but there is still a thin line between dicipline and child abuse.

    Answer by Kimberly71682 at 8:56 PM on Mar. 27, 2011

  • According to cps in my state, anytime you spank or hit a child and it leaves a mark it is considered abuse because there is a difference between spanking and getting carried away with it. Honestly, I would question my husband about it,and would most likely kick him out. I definitely would never trust him enough to leave them alone together again.

    Answer by Namaste17 at 9:16 PM on Mar. 27, 2011

  • I would definitely recommend a serious conversation. There is no way to leave a mark on a child without going way overboard. I would also suggest attending (together) parenting courses that discuss multiple practical and effective discipline options that don't involve physical intimidation. Let me know if you want any suggestions, I have a few that have proven really informative and genuinely helpful for the families I have worked with :)

    Answer by SammyHolloway at 9:25 PM on Mar. 27, 2011

  • Honestly there is a question to be asked here. Did he really spank him that hard or is he a light bruiser. My sister gets bruised by the slightest touch. If he actually spanked him that hard then a serious conversation needs to be had and some serious steps taken. Definelty anger management needs to be worked on. Also i dont know if i would feel comfortable with him being around my kids alone if he was spanking them so hard bruises would be left. I do spank, but my kids never have bruises left on them Of course immediatly following the spanking there may be some slight redness but it never stays more than a couple of minutes. I have never had an actually bruise arise from a spanking, so i think thats certainly a bit more than a spanking.

    Answer by 2breath2live at 9:50 PM on Mar. 27, 2011

  • I don't think my definition of spanking could leave a mark. I swat my kids. That could never leave a "mark". So I would have a hard time if I found a mark on my child. That is abuse.


    Answer by dancinintherain at 9:59 PM on Mar. 27, 2011

  • Well hubs and I were playing yesterday and I have marks all over me from the carpet, from his hands...I look like ive been in an accident! I could easily file a police report and make crazy claims! I have an issue with my skin marking up really easily! (my bras and book bags make me look like I have a skin disease) but long story short my son has the same issue! Soo, If he popped his leg and it left a mark, theres not much I would say! I have never witnessed my hubby being excessive or overly aggressive with anyone especially my kids! However if it became a constant thing, he'd stop being able to discipline them with spankings!

    Answer by sweetstkissez22 at 10:32 PM on Mar. 27, 2011

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