is it better to not tear and just stretch?
I'm asking this not for healing purposes, but for sex purposes after the baby is born. I'm scared that our intimacy won't be as enjoyable as it was before. I'd prefer healing wise to obviously NOT tear or get an episiotomy (this is what I've put in my birth plan). I've had friends give birth with absolutely no tearing at all and it makes me think that what that did is just stretch everything down there out (that may be silly, but honestly that's the first thing I think). I've also had friends that ended up tearing a little bit and needed stitches. I've heard jokes like, "Hey doc, could you add a couple extra stitches for me??" from guys and it freaks me out.
Would it really be better to tear and get stitched up than to stretch without tearing? I'm kind of nervous asking the doctor this, but I just might at my next appointment. She's pretty laid back and understanding. For now, do you girls know anything about this?
Asked by Anonymous at 10:35 AM on Mar. 28, 2011 in Pregnancy
Answer by zoejains_momma at 10:37 AM on Mar. 28, 2011
With my first I had the episiotomy. Not fun. It hurt worse then tearing with my 2nd. Sex was harder after having the episiotomy. And it hurt for a LONG time afterwards. When I tore, it healed quickly and I didn't feel any pain except the first few days.
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