I grew up very close to my grandmother on my dad's side but we moved across the country 10 years ago and now I have a son with my fiance who is black (I'm white). My grandmother has always been very prejudice and very against interracial couples. She hasn't said anything negative about me or my son but she never asks about him when I speak to her and she's never sent him anything, not even a card when he was born. We are now back in my hometown visiting the rest of my family and she's only 10 minutes away. I'd like to see her since she's getting old and won't be around much longer but I know it would be very akward and I wouldn't want to bring my fiance yet there's no way I would tell him he is not welcome to go where I go. Should I even bother with her? It makes me very sad to not be able to see her but it makes me feel worse that my own 4 month old innocent baby is being subjected to racism by his own family.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 9:38 PM on Nov. 27, 2008 in Relationships
Hi, As I understand what you're saying,it is YOUR grandmother that you miss and would like to see before she passes on right? Then there is no need for you to bring your child OR BF. You will regret not going to see her after she dies so just go and be together with only her.
Answer by jblueeyes228 at 9:45 PM on Nov. 27, 2008
Answer by kabbot01 at 10:51 PM on Nov. 27, 2008
Answer by kabbot01 at 10:54 PM on Nov. 27, 2008
Answer by admckenzie at 10:59 PM on Nov. 27, 2008
I would go visit gramma. Bring a friend and your baby. Leave baby with the friend outside her room, and visit with her and talk to her. Let her know you are happy and that you have a new baby. Tell her you would love for her to see your son. Depending on her ability to think clearly, you may want to start with a picture of your son. You will be able to tell if she might want to see the baby by her reaction. If she is indifferent, let it go. If she is sweet or warm about the baby, let her know that you have the baby right there for her to see. Babies have a way of warming gramma's hearts...despite the past. I wouldn't bring the BF as he isn't really in the family. Let this be a time for gramma and you - and hopefuly your son as well. GL hun!
Answer by Babylove76 at 11:42 PM on Nov. 27, 2008
Answer by beckcorc at 11:53 PM on Nov. 27, 2008