Been with my husband for 2 yrs and now have a 3 mo old son. For the past 2 years I've been making the money and he hasn't helped out much. I think he's been through like 10 jobs in 2 years. He's always got a reason for losing a job and maybe it's not his fault but I'm tired of all my money going to bills and never getting to spend any on myself or my son. We are so far behind now that I'm unemployed and he just lost another job on Friday. I now want to stay home with my son and lean on him to take care of us but I don't trust that he can take care of us so I am looking for a job. I am just stressed because when we started this relationship I was successful and I had money in my 401 K and very very little debt I also had 34 days of unpaid leave which came out to 2200 and now it's all gone. Gone to bills and my husband spending 300 on clothes for work and 350 on a day trip to cali. I am so stressed out I don't know what to doAnswer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 10:30 PM on Nov. 27, 2008 in Relationships
Answer by Bmat at 10:34 PM on Nov. 27, 2008
Answer by beckcorc at 11:43 PM on Nov. 27, 2008
Just curious....was he like this before you married him? I was married to two of them and I should have seen the signs before hand, but I was an idiot and didn't. Both of them STILL don't have jobs nor can they keep them when they get one on the rare occassion that they get one. You have a child and whether or not you want to leave is up to you. In the mean time, protect yourself. Get help. I know it's tough to do, but get any state aid that you can. It is there for those that need it. Chances are good that they will make him hold a job. Let the worker know what troubles you have and that you cannot depend on him to provide for your family.
Answer by Babylove76 at 12:12 AM on Nov. 28, 2008
Look for a job for now. I know you want to stay home with your child, but that isn't possible right now. Look for jobs that you can be around your child. Daycare is one of them. Become independant on your own. That way if the bottom falls out and you split up - it won't be financially devastating.Try reducing your debt. I have done this many times - you wouldn't believe the programs you find! Here's what you do: take your bills; medical, household, etc and call each of them. Tell them that along with economic hardships, you are looking at possibly becoming a single parent.
Ask them if they have anyway of helping you with your bill. Tell them you want to pay them off but right now you simply CAN'T! I have done this SOOOOO many times and have had literally thousands of dollars reduced or wiped clean through various programs the companies have that they do not advertise for families in need. Try it! You will be amazed! GL hun and PM me if you ever want to talk....
Answer by chyna_doll at 3:56 AM on Nov. 28, 2008
Answer by Anonymous at 3:23 PM on Nov. 28, 2008