Ok...where to even begin. My husband works nights, i work 230-6 at a daycare during the day. We have a 5 month old daughter. So i totally understand where our schedule is totally jacked up and it makes it hard to be able to have any kind of structure. But I am startin to worry about my husband and I's relationship. When i wake up in the morning he is just gettin home from work..he usually naps on the couch while i take care of Avery, then around 2 i leave for work and he gets up to take care of Avery. I get home around 6:30 and he either goes to take a nap or "hangs out" with me and Avery for a bit. But our hang out isnt even time together. He plays his stupid ass Madden game on the ps2 and then i usually get on the internet because there is nothing for us to do together. I don't bother him about playin his game cuz he works hard at work and i feel if he wants to do that to relax then that is fine. If he isnt playin Madden he is watchin football on the tv. First off, I am sooooooooo tired of seeing, hearing and talking about football. Because that is all we ever talk about. He thinks i rly give a shit about the Cowboys. I care cuz he cares, but when i hear about it all the time its very annoying. We never spend time together. And i don't want to sound needy...but i do need SOMEthing. I get we have a daughter together and our schedule gets crazy but i feel we just arn't clicking anymore....
I really hope this is normal....i don't want to believe that we are losing eachother.
Right now he is in the bedroom while im in the living room. We got into a very very small argument about the water bill and now we have this tension...and i dont think its from the actual argument. It just seems like we dont wanna be around eachother. What really upsets me, is i dont want to have sex with him. Im just not in the mood. Im not happy.
I dont know what to do. When we DO get time together, we dont even spend it TOGETHER. Im playin and talking to Avery while he is playing his football and just sayin "ya" to everything i say like he is actually listening.
When Avery is napping ((like now)), we could be spending good time together but we don't. We went to walmart yesterday cuz i told him i wanted us to get a puzzle. I didnt tell him this...but i figured even though doing a puzzle isnt anything big or serious,..but its atleast something we would be doing together. But we never ended up gettin one and I just don't know what to do.
Is this normal?? Is this what happens when you have a child and both of you are working?
Im so upset because im starting to feel like maybe we shouldn't be together...and i hate that. I feel that way because our lives are so boring! Im tired of sittin in this apartment..i wanna do something and do something together as a family. Im sick of the same shit every day. I hope im not being too needy.
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