I have seen women who are SM make comments on here and in my own life that they seem to think that being a SM basically makes them the child's mother. No less then if they had given birth to the children themselves. It seems like they feel that real mother needs to move over and if the real mother doesn't like that, she is just jealous? Yes, the more people to love a child the better, I get that, does that mean that if my friend or sister or anyone else wants to love and be there for my child, she is equal to me as a mother? The fact of the matter is a marriage license doesn't make a SM a mother. I am not talking about the situations where the moms are dead or just not around, I am talking about when the mom is there, doing her job and the SM thinks it is her right to step on toes and push the mom to one side. I am not just my children's mother when they are at my house, I am their mother when they are at school, at friend's houses and yes, I am still their mother even when they are with their dad and his new wife.
Asked by Anonymous at 9:18 AM on Mar. 30, 2011 in Parenting Debate
Answer by firsttimer338 at 7:52 AM on Mar. 31, 2011
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Answer by Minimelda at 3:57 PM on Mar. 30, 2011
I can't even imagine the tight rope that stepmoms/stepdads have to walk. I agree, in the situations you are referring to, the step mom has no right pushing the mom to the side. But then again, no one can take a mothers place period. Is the stepmom/stepdad just trying to show love and be an active participant in the childs life? Or undermining the mother/father? I think each situation is unique and all factors should be considered before a call is made.
Answer by MrsHouston47302 at 9:41 AM on Mar. 30, 2011
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