Last night, I had something minor bugging me, and I'll admit, it's stupid and it's my problem, but I just wanted to let my SO know so we could quickly discuss it and move on. I sat down and told him what was bugging me, and he went off on me. I get his frustration, I really do, but this became this huge thing over nothing. His reaction and the way he chooses to handle this has me feeling disrespected and my feelings disregarded. I have told him this. It's less about the initial annoyance (since it was minor) and has become about this feeling of disrespect; and it's a big thing for me. I will not be in a relationship where we are disrepectful to each other and are incapable of speaking to each other without a blow up argument. We've had this issue in the past and discussed it in the past. It is a deal breaker for me. I'm just really sad that this silly little thing that I just wanted to get out there so it didn't become a big thing has now become an even bigger issue.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 12:31 PM on Mar. 30, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by matobe at 12:34 PM on Mar. 30, 2011
Answer by pinkdragon36 at 12:50 PM on Mar. 30, 2011
Answer by pixie_trix at 1:32 PM on Mar. 30, 2011
He didn't listen, cut you off and jumped to conclusions. This is a direct sign that you most likely are not communicating in a manner in which he really comprehends what you are conveying to him.It's far more than just our word choice, it's also our tone, our body language, our mannerisms, everything plays into affective communication. Now, is that saying that it's all **you** and you need to do this or that. Absolutely not! However, I have learned during my 48 years that someone always has to take the lead. Someone in any situation always has to get the ball rolling or else a stale mate (which is what you to have right now) is where you end up. You both aren't budging basically because you feel you've done this that and the other. That's not going to get a relationship anywhere.
Answer by pixie_trix at 1:51 PM on Mar. 30, 2011
Answer by pixie_trix at 1:55 PM on Mar. 30, 2011
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