My sister get social security disability for her autistic daughter and has been using the funds in a questionable manner over the last few months. The funds are for use by the parent or guardian for the benefit of the child who is recieving the benefits. It is not to be used for rent, car payments, or any living expenses. It is to be used for ONLY the needs of the child relating to her disablity, such as in her case for therapy and special education equipment. It can be used for car repairs if the car repaired is used to drive her to doctor's appointments and therapy sessions relating to her disability. This is stated clearly in the social security's internet information on disability funding.
In the last two months, my sister has taken funds out to buy gifts and decorations for her other daughter's birthday party, and to go clothes shopping for herself multiple times. She is now talking about using the funds to buy a "therapy" dog. She wants a dog for her son, but can't afford it. If she gets a "therapy" dog, all its vet bills and food can be deducted from the fund, as well as training and the dog itself. Not only does her autistic daughter HATE dogs, she is terrified of them and throws things at them whenever she sees one. My sister is willing to bring a dog into this situation to let her son have one. Oh, by the way, they had three dogs before at various times and they all got "lost". They have also been though several cats, who all ended up being given away after a few months.
My niece is severely autistic, and will never be able to care for herself. She has been in therapy for several years, and can only say a few very hard to understand words. This money is meant to be used FOR HER, and it makes me so upset to think of my sister wearing new clothes bought with the money meant for her. Social security almost never reviews cases for child disabilities unless a complaint is made. I am thinking about sending an anonymous complaint in, but don't want my sister to get in trouble ( though she deserves to).
For those who think it isn't my business, I love my niece and want to protect her interests, if even from her own mother. If I report her and they invesigate, my niece will not lose the funds. I have already looked into that. My sister will lose access to the account the funds are in, and a liason will be put in charge of them instead. Or the funds will be monitored and my sister will have to provide documentation for everything she spends them on ( best case ).
Would you say something, either to my sister or to SS ? Keep in mind she is very single minded and to her the funds are for HER own use to care for her whole family. She doesn't seem to understand how it works, and won't even listen to a lawyer about it.....
Asked by Anonymous at 1:20 PM on Mar. 30, 2011 in General Parenting
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