My seven year old daughter is, for the most part a well-rounded, good-hearted child; however, this year she's been displaying some behavior I'm concerned about. She's an only chid (for now, although there's one on the way), and she can be bossy to her peers and uses bad judgement. Today her principle called because she'd waved her finger that had peanut butter on it, pretending to touch a child who has bad peanut allergies. This is obviously unacceptable, and we're lucky the child didn't actually make contact with the peanut butter, or suffer a reaction.
We've discussed bullying and thinking before acting til I'm blue in the face, but this calls for a more punitive measure. What do you think would be the appropriate reaction/ punishment for her? Please help!
Asked by Anonymous at 2:12 PM on Mar. 30, 2011 in School-Age Kids (5-8)
Answer by UpSheRises at 2:20 PM on Mar. 30, 2011
Answer by NannyB. at 2:20 PM on Mar. 30, 2011
Maybe she should have to do some research & write a report on #1 ~ bullying & the possible results of it. & #2 ~ Peanut allergies & all the ramifications of it. I think I'd be spanking my kid's butt over the peanut butter inncident first. That's outrageous to treat another person like that when it could be so dangerous.
Answer by ghostwriter777 at 2:24 PM on Mar. 30, 2011
Answer by sarahlu at 2:26 PM on Mar. 30, 2011
Answer by Hazelnutkin at 2:26 PM on Mar. 30, 2011
Answer by minimo77 at 6:44 PM on Mar. 30, 2011
Answer by Pnukey at 7:00 PM on Mar. 30, 2011
Answer by TameraD at 3:32 PM on Mar. 31, 2011
Your child might not be mean or a bully....she may just have issues with impulsivity. Impulsiveness can sometimes look like a child is being spiteful or mean when in reality they have a thought and then there is no filter - they just do it. I get what you are saying about being a good kid in general - just does things that are really "dumb" sometimes. This is where we go: What were you thinking?! And the answer is usually they weren't. If you can I would suggest finding a really good counselor, not with the school, who is licensed and works with kids. A few months of sessions may help with recognizing personal space, boundaries, impulse control, and the therapist may have some additional insight. Most parents wait until their child has been given detension, suspension, or truly hurt another child before they seek help. For best results, if you have hints now, seek assistance for her.
Answer by frogdawg at 9:50 AM on Apr. 1, 2011