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Tweens & Chores

How do I get my daughter to do chores? Paying her didn't work. Guilt didn't work. Any ideas?


Asked by neubren3 at 5:09 PM on Mar. 30, 2011 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • It's called being grounded...until she decides she wants to do her chores. A couple days of sitting in her room doing nothing is a pretty good motivator for most kids. My kids don't have electronics in their rooms and very limited toys so there isn't much to do except sit and read. If they decide they want to do their chores then they can do them and come out.

    Answer by justanotherjen at 10:24 PM on Mar. 30, 2011

  • She loses what she time, computer time, friend time, sports time, her cell phone if she has one....gone all of it, one at a time. Teach her how to do HER OWN laundry....and the consequence, no clean clothes! Bummer huh? lol

    Answer by CABlonde at 5:31 PM on Mar. 30, 2011

  • sounds like maybe punishment is the next thing there Mom. set up a chore chart and start taking things away unless stuff is done.

    Answer by zoejains_momma at 5:15 PM on Mar. 30, 2011

  • I agree with CABlond, there must be consequenses. The other trick, though: Don't back down - stand firm.

    Answer by ts-all at 5:50 PM on Mar. 30, 2011

  • Trying taking away the thing she loves, computer, phone, friends...
    With my kids we negotiate when chores will be done, if they are not done when they committed they get one opportunity to complete the chore. If they don't do it the second time, they don't get to have friends over on the weekend, or they don't get to go a school function or whatever it is that particular week they really want. It works for me.

    Answer by blessedwboysx3 at 6:37 PM on Mar. 30, 2011

  • Thanks everyone. All I had to say was that she'd be grounded and miraculously bathrooms were clean and clothing was folded.

    Comment by neubren3 (original poster) at 5:23 PM on Mar. 31, 2011