Not sure if I'm thinking of doing the right thing, or just coping out.
My health hasn't been the best over the last few years and I've been getting a lot of treatments for it. During all this I came to become friends with a woman I'll call K.
she was so sweet the kind of person that always made you feel better. Just a few weeks ago she was telling me how much better I looked, and how happy she was that I was up to biking again. Told me she was really worried about me for a while.
well due to a surprising turn of events, she has died and her funeral is tomorrow.
I'm medically not supposed to get upset, and I fear that attending a funeral will make me more upset.
Call me crazy, but I just woke from a nap and dreamed that she told me that I shouldn't go if it was going to make me more upset. that I should honor her by having a good day, to go off and work out my feelings on my bike instead. That she didn't need me to go to a funeral to show that I cared about her, that I always showed her I cared.
and she probably would think that all this fuss is stupid!
Guess I just needed to unload mostly, but would appreciate thoughts about it.
They set up a fund for her 5 year old son, but I was thinking about getting him a gift card to a toy store.
Answer by leejoy at 6:53 PM on Mar. 30, 2011
Answer by elizabr at 6:55 PM on Mar. 30, 2011
Answer by Whimsee at 7:01 PM on Mar. 30, 2011
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Answer by HeidisMom800 at 10:59 PM on Mar. 30, 2011
I think you should go for at least a little bit and here's why. I know I would stress more about feeling guilty about not going and have anxiety about that more than I would from just going to the funeral or the calling hours. You will be upset during the funeral yes but you're upset about your friend anyway and it really might help you to pay your respects and have some closure. As well as showing support for her family. If you truly feel you can't handle it then don't but I know for me I would try my best to go. Sorry to hear you lost a friend.....
Answer by Luuckymommy at 1:31 PM on Mar. 31, 2011