I have a friend who is separated and getting divorced, never dated in high school, and is now acting like a boy crazy teenager. Every time we talk, I have to hear about this guy that she likes that did this, and that guy she thinks is cute who did that and more details than I'd really like on her sex life, past, present and future. I've tried changing the subject, but she just ignores my attempts and steers the conversation right back to the guys and all. I am just so tired of listening to all this, honestly, I never wanted to listen to it to begin with.
My SO said I need to just tell her I don't want to hear it, and I know he's right. But I'm not sure how to go about it where it won't hurt her feelings. I've tried subtlety with changing the subject, I've tried by lack of expression, interest, and response to convey that I'm not interested and don't want to hear it, but that doesn't seem to do it either. I know that means I probably need to be blunt, but since I seem to be the only friend that really listens to her, I don't want to hurt her feelings and make her think I don't care about her. I do care about her, I just don't want to hear any more of her romantic/sexual antics. Most of what she talks about is stuff I don't agree with (sleeping with married men, getting involved with a guy who's about to go to jail, stuff like that), and even if I did agree with it, I just don't want all these details.
How can I tell her this without hurting her feelings? Is it even possible?
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