I was with a guy for 5 years, I felt like I was in love with him...still feel that way. I can't get him out of my head, I can't stop missing him...I know how pathetic that is and how stupid it sounds. I try, I really do...I try to push him out of my mind and I can for a while but all it takes is one look at my daughter or one song that we used to sing together and I go right back to missing him.
Our relationship ended because neither of us were mature enough to handle where it was going...we were together for 5 years but everything happened so fast and then we fell into a routine way too fast and it got boring and we started arguing and you through in a few issues on both sides and it was just a disaster.
Logically, I know we will never be together again...he lives very far away now, and he says he wants to move on and doesn't love me anymore. I wonder if that's true every single day because he contacts me after a week or two of not talking and is a mess...crying and saying he misses me and then after a few days of talking he pushes me away again, I honestly don't want to believe he does that just to hurt me..but that very well might be what it is. In the back of my mind, I can't help but question if he's feeling the same way as me though and just handling it differently. He never did like to show emotion but....that's not the point.
The point is, if he isn't going to try to make things work and he's going to continue acting that way...I'm going to keep feeling this way, unless I do something about it. The issue is...I don't know what to do to make myself feel better. I don't want to move on in the sense of dating anyone yet...I just want to feel good about myself again. I'm not used to be just me...I'm used to being US and now that my second half is gone...I just don't know how to function. I try to make myself feel better by taking care of myself on the outside...for example, yesterday i went to get a sunless tan but ended up feeling self conscious and went and exfoliated the heck out of myself til it faded.......now that that tan is gone and I sit and look at a pic I took of myself WITH the tan...I realize there was NOTHING WRONG with that tan! and I feel so dumb for washing it off....so I know the issues I'm having are much deeper than skin deep. I just want someone to tell me what I can do to make myself feel better? I want to talk to family and friends but at the same time...I don't want to be a burden anymore...for the last year of mine and his relationship all i did was cry and complain and now he's gone and that's what i do now and i know it gets old.
Can anyone give me some good advice? and please please be nice...I really don't need criticism right now.
Asked by Anonymous at 3:17 PM on Mar. 31, 2011 in Relationships
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