My boyfriend and I have been dating over a year now and we are going to have a baby end of April. I already have a son who is 3 and his father left me before his first birthday and we had been dating for 4 years so it was very difficult for me to get into another serious relationship. My boyfriend is great with my son and takes care of my son where hs father doesn't want anything to do with him. We weren't planning on having a baby, I was on birth control. My boyfriend is really happy about the baby and things are going well.
We have talked about getting married but we would like to wait until we have the extra money for it, things are really tight for us right now. He bought me an engagement ring a while back but we had to take it back so we would have the money for more important things. We were raised differently and my parents don't really care if we get married right now, if we did they would be supportive, and if we waited they would be fine with that too. His mom wants us married ASAP! She is being really pushy about it and constantly brings it up. She says it's a sin for us to be together right now. She said she would pay for us to have a small wedding, but I don't really want to go through all of that because of family problems right now, so my boyfriend and I told her we would go to the courthouse and get married but we would like to wait to have a wedding when we could enjoy it more. She said that was fine but we have to have two witness's and my boyfriend said my mother was going and she said that my mom could pay for half then. This made me mad because my mom doesn't want to push us to get married! I asked her to come for my support not to try to get her to pay for it when his mom was the one who offered!
I'm not really pushing for it because we have so much other stuff going on. Since we have only been dating a little over a year I am also honestly scared to get married, but then again if we did I think it would ease my mind about us staying together. I only worry about it because of the past not because I honestly feel in my heart that my bf would leave me. But you never know what could happen in the future. I guess I'm a little confused on how to feel about it. I love him and I don't want to be with anyone else, I want our family to be happy and had what I did growing up. I'm just bothered by his mom trying to make us get married, I know I love him and I honestly don't feel that a piece of paper is going to change much of anything. I would like to wait until we have the extra money for it...
Also I don't think my boyfriend is agreeing with me on waiting because he is scared to committ or anything. He actually brings it up more than me and I'm the one who is a little hesitant.
Am I wrong for wanting to wait?
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