ok so i spoke to the guy i have been knocking around with for over a yr last week (my best friends brother and no my bestie doesnt no). we will call my bestie june and her brother james....when i got there i was talking to june while i was on the massage chair. james was sitting behind her and was staring at me, james then went out for a smoke so i went to the bathroom then out to the car to get junes drink. james had gone out the front and he came over to the garage when he seen me. he asked me to go to his room to say a proper hello when i could get away from june. so when i could i went into james and he was all over me wanting sex. i said no because not only i needed to talk to him but june was only to rooms away. he kinda freaked out when i said i needed to talk to him and we needed to be quick. i told him that its all getting hard and im finding it hard keeping a secret from her he then asked me if i wanted to stop and i said not really but its getting to hard and he said it was up to me if we were going to stop and telling june would crush her. i asked him if his feelings have changed from when we first started mucking around. he kept avoiding the question saying "i thought we were just mucking around" i kept saying ur not answering my question.... i then said "its a simple yes or no answer, i wont get angry either way" he then repeated him self and i started to get fustrated so he said no. he then kept asking me if i was ok and if he gave me the wrong answer and i told him i was fine and no he didnt. i went back out to june then about an hour later i went back to james and told him i think we should stop and he said if thats want u want and rolled over and went to sleep. i kinda figured he was a bit angry at me so i didnt say anymore i just walked out. june told me the next day that james was pissed off all day and the next as well. my question is from what i have wrote.... was he avoiding the question because his feelings have grown for me or was he just trying not to hurt me?
i have known him and his family all my life and are very close to the hole family. in the past yr and a half we havent slept with anyone but each other nor have we had a partner. we havent told anyone about us mucking around because we both no it would cause huge fights. at first it was just sex and we wouldnt touch each other if we wernt spending the night together but now he touches me when ever he see's me.
i thought me talking to him would stop the confussion im having but i think it it has just make it worse. i have fallen for him but didnt say anything to him about how i feel.
Asked by Anonymous at 9:38 PM on Mar. 31, 2011 in Relationships
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Answer by isabellalecour at 9:56 PM on Mar. 31, 2011
he kept avoiding the question saying "i thought we were just mucking around" this is your answer ... He is being honest with you, even though its not what you want to hear...FWB relationships dont work, sex is not just sex, someone eventually wants more. If he wanted you for more than a roll in the sack, he would have told his family and friends by now, ( it's been over a year)... He knows that you have strong feelings for him, be careful he may try to sweet talk you so he can continue using you for sex. Wouldn't you rather be with someone who acknowledges that you are his girl and wants to be with you because he loves being with you or someone who sneaks behind peoples back to get naked with you to satisfy his own needs.
Answer by TraceyLu at 11:35 PM on Mar. 31, 2011
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