but I did. I have no idea what to do at this point. I love my husband, but the passion and interest isn't there anymore. We met when I was very young and I feel that I've grown and he hasn't. This doesn't at all justify my wrong doing. I would just grow the balls to fess up and leave because he deserves better than me, and I deserve to be happy too. However, I've been a stay at home Mom for 6 years (when I was 19 and had baby #1) and make no money to support myself if I were to leave.... I can't stand the thought of losing my entire family, though I do know this is what I risked with having an affair.
I honestly never thought I could be stupid enough or vulnerable enough to do something this low and terrible to myself, family or the man that I had the affair with. None of them deserved it. My husband doesn't suspect anything, and my family would never expect me to be the type to do something like this either which makes it harder to admit to, even though I feel like it would be the right thing. ... I don't really have a specific question, but would like advice, or bashing if you feel it's necessary. Thanks all.
Asked by Anonymous at 2:47 AM on Apr. 1, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by Miss_Kay at 2:54 AM on Apr. 1, 2011
You need to take a night and figure out if you are going to fix this or break your family up. Than you need to go get tested and if you are going to fix this you need to figure out if it is going to do anything good for him in knowing what happened or if you will only be reliving yourself of guilt and breaking his heart. Each situation is different. If you telling him will do nothing but hurt him and take guilt off of you though you need to suck up the guilt and deal with it.
Answer by Anonymous at 2:56 AM on Apr. 1, 2011
Answer by prissysayshi at 4:40 AM on Apr. 1, 2011
Even the mighty fall dear. Your human, you made a mistake. Yes, I've been there. I would suggest first doing some serious inner searching and figuring out exactly what was going on in your head. You can't expect an affair which is new and exciting and full of lust and passion to compare with a relationship where there are bills, kids, responsibility. Own up to it. Tell your spouse. It sucks and it's extremely hard but it is what it is. When I say "own up to it" I mean completely. Sincerely apologize. I too knew what I was risking but we're all dumb dumbs at some point. And I agree with anon. If your only telling him to relieve your own guilt, save it. Learn from it, grow from it, but never tell anyone. If your telling him because you feel like he has the right to know, go for it.
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