My DH has a stepsister who had 5 children. One of her children died after a car accident that was her fault. Her 2 eldest children she lost custody of to their father due to being unfit. She lost her youngest child to her father due to being unfit. She now only has custody of her middle child (her son--I'll call him SNIL for step nephew in law). There is no father in the picture, because she does not know who the father is, so he's never been involved. SNIL has been telling FIL and SMIL things about what's going on in his house, and he's gone so far as to say that he'd rather put a gun to his head and pull the trigger than keep living with her (BTW-they talked to him about it, he said he wouldn't actually do it, but just that he didn't want to live with her). One thing that DH did find out about was that SSIL (step sister in law) came out in front of 13 year old SNIL in a bra and a thong asking him to take "sexy pics" of her for her Facebook page... :( Poor boy!
Anyway, FIL and SMIL wanted to get guardianship, but since FIL has some health issues, and they both work full time, and they are getting up in age, they don't think they can do it. So, they mentioned it to DH. DH would LOVE to get guardianship. SNIL is an awesome kid from what I hear (only met him once). One major problem is that we do not live in the State where SNIL is--actually my DH is military and we are overseas. However, we can provide for him. In the state they are going through (MI), anyone can request guardianship of a child, and anyone can suggest a guardian for a child. Also, at age 14, a child can request a different guardian from the Court. SNIL will be 14 in June. FIL and SMIL would suggest DH be a guardian. And DH would of course apply to be a guardian. But, we have NO IDEA what the process it, or where to start. We also don't know if it will affect things if we have 4 children of our own (three together, one is my "bonus" daughter that DH had with his ex wife). Our children and us being overseas would be the only negative. We have a stable home, stable income, can provide medical and dental coverage and care, can provide a quality education, would help him maintain contact with his family back home, can provide food, clothing, school supplies, extracurriculars, etc without child support from the mother (the State usually has the parent pay the guardian support, but we wouldn't ask for it).
Asked by Anonymous at 10:17 AM on Apr. 1, 2011 in General Parenting
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