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tonight i heard that my sons father is going to sign over his rights then i heard he wasnt. why is that if he does it its all my fault? did i push to much or not enough? i feel like its all my fault. yes my son thinks of my bf as his dad but i still want him to be involved with his real dad


Asked by goobersmom713 at 9:00 PM on Apr. 1, 2011 in Relationships

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  • Woman...listen...would you ever sign over your rights because someone pushed you too hard or not hard enough? OF COURSE NOT. You are a mother, you are a parent, you give a damn about your child. If someone is willing under any circumstance to just "sign off" on a child, they are NOT worth having in the picture.

    Do not blame yourself. There is nothing anyone could say or do to sever your relationship or desire for a relationship with your child, right? If someone can just "quit"...let them.

    Answer by Mom-2-3-Girlz at 9:51 PM on Apr. 1, 2011

  • Just because he wants to terminate his parental rights doesn't mean that it will be granted by the courts. Whatever is in the best interest of the child. And even if he does get to sign them over it doesn't necessarily alleviate his responsibility to pay child support. If it were that easy, all deadbeat dads would do it.

    Answer by HollyBoBolly at 9:09 PM on Apr. 1, 2011

  • not your fault - my daughter's father decided drugs were more important than her so she does not know her father. You can't force a square peg into a round hole. stop blaming yourself.

    Answer by 8Tinkerboo8 at 9:13 PM on Apr. 1, 2011

  • Don't let anyone tell you it's your fault, he's making his own decisions.

    Answer by camiam81 at 9:07 PM on Apr. 1, 2011

  • i understand but for some reason i feel like its all my fault :( each time i look at my son i feel alittle guilty that he doesnt "know" his dad

    Comment by goobersmom713 (original poster) at 9:09 PM on Apr. 1, 2011

  • You can't control what he does. It's not your fault. If he does, just consider yourself lucky that your DS loves your bf so much. Sorry, Momma :(

    Answer by lovingmy4babies at 11:33 PM on Apr. 1, 2011

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