the man that I am going to marry has an adopted child that is his wife @ the time adopted from her 16 year old niece who was into drugs so didn't take care of the baby inside her. There is alot more to this story but what I am asking is how do I handle this child that when she comes to my house is bad, we can't even go out in public because she acts up and he really can't do much because he only has visitation and not shared custity the x made sure of that since it is her family and not his that the baby was coming from. I have a 12 year old that loves him and can't wait for us all to be a real family. I guess my question is how do I handle this child when she comes to our home and disrupts the weekends. Love the man but the adopted child what do I do.Answer Question
Answer by randi1978 at 12:19 PM on Nov. 29, 2008
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Answer by Anonymous at 4:09 AM on Nov. 30, 2008
Psychologist have proven that in extended families the children have to be & need to be disciplined by the parent & not the step parent. New people coming in & acting as an authoritative position over them furthers their confusion & the issues they may be having with the divorce of their parents. New adult role models are to be supportive & add a positive influence into the extended households. If a child is considered to already have problems I would think this theory applies ever more so. So you do nothing as far as discipline. How would you like it if all of a sudden someone you did not know came into your life on a regular basis & started bossing you around? You need to look the studies up & inform your future DH of this information. I'm with the others, why are you continually using the word adopted? He is no less responsible for her due to that fact.
Answer by strongmom40 at 8:34 AM on Nov. 30, 2008
Answer by Anonymous at 8:17 AM on Dec. 1, 2008
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