I have a friend who I have known for almost 30 years. We've been friends since we both started High School or junior high what ever you call it in the States. She was bridesmaid at my wedding also, so there is a lot of history.
Because we both work pretty much full time, it seems the only time we get to catch up is on the weekends. A year or so ago, she started coming around on Saturday afternoons just after lunch and would stay for a few hours and then go home as she said to look after her elderly parents. Since then, she is now coming for lunch, staying for dinner and usually not leaving before 1am.
She is also on a special vegetarian with gluten & lactose free diet, which means I have to prepare two meals plus any snacks that are suitable for her to eat. She doesn't provide anything, nor help with the creation of the meals or the clean up. She might set the table if I hand her the cutlery. She doesn't cook, and doesn't know how to cook as her mother in her 80's does everything for her, but the mother has just been diagnosed with Alzheimers.
My friend is struggling to come to terms with this, and thinks that her mother is going to get better, that it is just a phase or can be cured with a pill. I have been trying to use these Saturday afternoon sessions to try and teach my friend how to cook, but it shouldn't be up to me and I feel frustrated and angry that she just doesn't bother to help herself.
What can I say to her to try and make her realise that she needs to get off her butt and help? Not just me when she comes over in the preparation of the meals if she is going to stay that long, but at home with her parents who are terrified of what is going to happen to her when they die?
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