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Do you send your family on Guilt trips?

My mother has taught me that guilt is not all bad. It can be a motivation tool to get the family off their butts and do something. What do you think?

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ventingmom

Asked by ventingmom at 11:35 AM on Apr. 3, 2011 in Relationships

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  • I often joke that my mother is a travel agent for guilt trips. I don't use them as I hate being on the receiving end of them.
    layh41407

    Answer by layh41407 at 11:36 AM on Apr. 3, 2011

  • I think your mother did you a disservice.


    Guilt trips are a HORRIBLE tool and is used by immature people and only result in pulling families apart and driving a steak into any type of decent relationship you could have had.


    You need to deal with situations DIRECTLY and honestly.  That is the only way to get positive LONG term results.


    My mother also used that technique along with the silent treatment and I promised myself I would NEVER abuse my husband/kids that way.

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:39 AM on Apr. 3, 2011

  • Pathetic way to have a relationship.
    pookiekins34

    Answer by pookiekins34 at 11:45 AM on Apr. 3, 2011

  • Ive tried and it doesnt work. If anything it turns a deaf ear to what Im trying to get done.
    beyondhopes

    Answer by beyondhopes at 11:54 AM on Apr. 3, 2011

  • No I sure dont. I believe it is a form of emotional abuse and can be emotional black mail.
    gemgem

    Answer by gemgem at 12:00 PM on Apr. 3, 2011

  • No. I outgrew games a long time ago.
    LovingSAHMommy

    Answer by LovingSAHMommy at 12:02 PM on Apr. 3, 2011

  • NO- my mother put Guilt Trips on me through out my whole life- it really did alot of damage; so much that i cut all ties with her 5 Years ago- i would do alot of soul searching before i used that tool on your family-
    daisyb

    Answer by daisyb at 12:12 PM on Apr. 3, 2011

  • sometimes :)
    123smithterri3

    Answer by 123smithterri3 at 12:42 PM on Apr. 3, 2011

  • Yeah because yelling does not promote them helping.
    pinkdragon36

    Answer by pinkdragon36 at 1:55 PM on Apr. 3, 2011

  • depending on the situatuion i do agree on guilt trips on certain things
    goobersmom713

    Answer by goobersmom713 at 5:45 PM on Apr. 3, 2011

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