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Getting Married (again) in Sept.

My husband and I have been married 3 years and had gotten married in the courts and my husband came to me yesterday and asked me if he thinks we can pull a wedding together by Sept:) I AM SO EXCITED! I have already started the guest list, picked colors, place, food, bar, music lol Anyhow, I have a few questions...
How long before the wedding do you send the invite? Do you think I should truly leave people off the guest list if I don't want them there? I think so. I really do not want to invite my older brother, but my husband says its not just a simple oversight and would hurt him... :/
Also, I have 2 really good friends, but I have already picked which one I want to be my maid of honor. The other will be a brides maid, but I think she will be butthurt-how do I deal with that?
Any other advice would be super!!


Asked by ABusyBee at 8:04 PM on Apr. 3, 2011 in Relationships

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  • Send a save the date in June, invites at least one full month in advance. And yes it probably would hurt to leave out your brother, I hope whatever is causing you to not want to invite him can be overseen, weddings should be a family affair and you might regret it later if you leave him out...
    Your friends should be grown ups and be honored to be asked in the first place, I would not worry so much about that.

    Answer by cdecker83 at 8:08 PM on Apr. 3, 2011

  • Invites should go out about 6 weeks beforehand. Have two maids/matrons of honor. I have seen it a couple of times. Enjoy!!

    Answer by elizabr at 8:16 PM on Apr. 3, 2011

  • Its not a big wedding at all its very small (not that I should have to justify it to you) and because we never got to have one....duh.
    We saved money for a long time for a house which was more important with our 3 kids. Now the wedding...

    Comment by ABusyBee (original poster) at 8:51 PM on Apr. 3, 2011

  • i think a small wedding with just family and friends because a real big wedding means gifts
    if you renew your vows every 10 or 20yrs would be better then every 3yrs

    Answer by dutchcanadain at 10:28 PM on Apr. 3, 2011

  • We never had vows to begin with so there are none to renew. It wasnt even a judge that married us it was the clerk of the court. Its not to renew and it is a small wedding. No one seems to be getting it.
    Its small with only family and friends since we are funding our own wedding.

    Comment by ABusyBee (original poster) at 10:33 PM on Apr. 3, 2011

  • Not being mean but what's the point of this? Why not just renew your vows instead of having a big wedding since you have been married for years?

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:21 PM on Apr. 3, 2011