When we found out I was pregnant My views on allowing him to smoke pot changed. He still thinks its okay to smoke pot on occasion when we have a baby sitter and I disagree. I hate this about him. When we argue about it he compares it to drinking and says that it impairs you less than a few beers does and that I can't say that its right for an adult to drink a few beers but its wrong to smoke pot just because its illegal. We have everything we need, we both have good jobs he's going to school , so he points out that this isn't holding us back and I shouldn't care. We get along great for weeks and then we get a babysitter and thats the 1st thing he wants to do. I'm to my wits end with it and i've considered leaving him. I love him so much but I cant compromise with this. I knew about the habit before we were married and I loved him anyway and I still do. Am I blowing this out of proportion? Should I put up with it?
Asked by Anonymous at 2:35 PM on Nov. 29, 2008 in Relationships
Answer by munch12502 at 9:08 PM on Nov. 29, 2008
Smoking pot is illegal in all states. It is not like alcohol.. He could get you and him in serious trouble smoking it. I would get on him about having it and smoking it anywhere by the house. You have to think or not just you but your child. If he wont stop you might have to leave him.
Answer by louise2 at 2:43 PM on Nov. 29, 2008
Answer by amydh at 2:44 PM on Nov. 29, 2008
Answer by butterscotch297 at 2:44 PM on Nov. 29, 2008
Answer by Spears07 at 2:52 PM on Nov. 29, 2008
Answer by krazyash023 at 2:52 PM on Nov. 29, 2008
You knew this about him b4 the baby, right? I think you need to give him some time and resources that show him it is bad. It is illegal, has he considered what would happen if he were arrested buying, carrying, or whatever? The embarrassment, you would have child protective services involved, could lose your jobs, and spend tons of $ on legal fees. If you do this in a calm way, he my agree to cut back at first, and then quit. I can't guarantee it, but try to approach him when you aren't emotional.
Answer by Teachermom01 at 2:53 PM on Nov. 29, 2008
Answer by krazyash023 at 2:55 PM on Nov. 29, 2008